Originally published at: Email templates to help you say "no" in any situation | Boing Boing
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Meeting participation is boiled down to the following:
- (Input) I have information for the meeting (given offline to the meeting organizer.)
- (Process) I want/need to participate in the meeting and need to set/influence a course of action.
- (Output) I don’t need to participate in the meeting, but am interested in the outcome.
- (No stake) This meeting does not have anything to do with me/my role.
What if you’re paid hourly? Damn right I’ll take a meandering, unfocused meeting that stretches well past the allotted time. Talk as long as you like…
Unfortunately, a lot of meetings are from the top down, where your precious time is messily devoured by some administrator’s desire to disgorge an infodump that could easily have been handled in a few e-mails.
“Thank you for understanding” is always a good phrase, it makes them think they should be understanding, even if they’re not.
I would also include
- (Defense) I’m here to make sure you don’t fuck something up that I’ll have to clean up (again)
It could be argued this is a subset of Input, but I think it’s important enough to need it’s own category
Managemensturbation.
Three sentences in a row that each begin with “I don’t do…” sounds awfully one-sided and stubborn, and makes you come across as an ass.
Shucks now I have to google the text of business letters.
I get the joke. But once you reach the point where you value time far more than you do money that goes out the window. It’s one of the reasons I also don’t do meetings without an agenda.
“Just want to be upfront.
I don’t do non-transactional meetings. I don’t do meetings without a strict agenda. I don’t do meetings unless we absolutely have to.”
Be prepared to defend yourself against “not being a team player” in your next performance review.
All you have to do is say “Is this something we can do over email? I’m a little swamped” and you don’t sound like a dick.
In Japan, we don’t say no. We just say, “That would be rather difficult…”
That said, I think that it’s better to offer alternatives for what you can do rather than going into the nitty-gritty of why you can’t or won’t do something.
I understand your point, but since you are committing to attending the meeting ie
I’m here to make sure you don’t…
I would chalk this up to a sub-category under process, namely to ensure that the destructive path is not taken.
I’m saying no right now.
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