Women are rating it (for each platform) by their aggregate decisions. The average is simply the median man in terms of received likes. 50th percentile.
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Like “I send her a picture of my dick and yet she hasn’t responded in kind with nude pics WHAT GIVES??”
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Wait. Total received ‘likes’ are equated to ‘attractiveness’?
But actually messaging someone isn’t? That’s just ‘messaging a less attractive man’?
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Um. Yes, I can see how that could result in some comfusion. (-:
Wait, again. Are ‘likes’ anonymous? And messaging, isn’t I presume?
Oy. I see this could be more complicated than I can manage to care about. (-;
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That’s the thing; each app and site are different, so there are no stats which will apply uniformly, and the value applied to each aspect (likes, messages) varies.
(Personally I value one good conversation over a 1000 likes.)
On swipe right/left formats, members are rating others’ immediate physical appeal or lack thereof; many people don’t bother to look at additional photos or read profiles first, so usually folks are being judged on a very limited amount of info.
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Messages are way less common than likes. A ‘like’ is roughly the equivalent of “Based on your looks and info, I’d consider going out with you.” E.g. on Tinder, messaging can only occur when both parties like each other and ‘match.’ So you have much more data about individual specific attractiveness (how many likes out of how many views did they obtain) based on likes received. And then you just rank the users in order and see how are they doing on other metrics. Also, response rates correlate with attractiveness.
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Eggsactly.
I’ve actually met a couple of lovers online, but just in the process of doing stuff online in pursuit of some objective — recreational aerodynamics, software development, volunteer work, fandom, online social geeking, etc. — and, in the process, getting into interesting conversations with interesting people, and then, well, one thing leads to another and, well… you know.
That’s pretty much what I’ve always done in real life, too. (-:
(Which is…)
Just be the charming, happy self that I’d like to be, and that I try to project in real life, even when I’m feeling all grumpy and snarly on the inside. (-:
And that’s worked so well all these years (-: that I never really got around to checking out dating apps.
So I’m probably in over my head here already. (-:
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I know quite a few people who’ve met via online communications, and usually not any of the various dating apps that are out there.
Sparks and mental connections can happen when you least expect them, and that’s what’s so paradoxical about human attraction; it’s something that simply can’t be manufactured, packaged and resold at will. (Though that doesn’t stop big business from trying like hell though.)
That’s not to completely negate the viability of all apps; they can be useful as a venue because it seems very difficult to meet people organically nowadays.
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In reality, lots of both men and women don’t “just find people”. And society implying that they must be losers for this to happen doesn’t help. That’s why online dating exists, even if it is a scam in many cases.
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I can’t believe that socket puppet has beomce a resume bullet point.
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Me, I miss the good old days when you could meet an appealing person and sweet talk 'em into forever right there on the tarmac.
Damned TSA ruined everything.
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Reading the comments made me think of this recent Atlantic piece: Why the Myth of Meritocracy Hurts Students of Color.
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What are these “space pants”? do they have a special procedure to get into them? are they actually used for space?
Human sock puppet, you mean. Bleh.
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…only the ones who get laid.
Oh, no. The offer of a house and armload of shiny things must be working for at least some of the population. Donald Trump’s been married LOTS and replicated his genes, too.
The year-long rehearsal for an Olympic-level dance? That’s how musicians (and athletes) wind up losing paternity cases. Everything they’re doing onstage is carefully calculated to drop panties.
As far as the house goes, it’s not like the guy is quit-claiming the title - he going to live there, too. Presumably, he’s using the house to demonstrate that he’s not sleeping under the same bridge as all the other trolls.
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What, you don’t see the obvious and irresistible appeal of someone who doesn’t have even the basic modicum of humane respect for others, until it personally benefits them in some way?
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Those pants look great, but they’d look even better on my bedroom floor.
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