When the right rally about people “teaching” others to be gay, what they’re really/mostly fighting against is teaching others that it’s OKAY to be gay whatever claims they (the right) might make.
Whether through pedagogy or modeling.
I tried to drown my trans-ness in alcohol. Thankfully, I was unsuccessful, although I damn near didn’t recover from that. What really pisses me off about the world right now (well, one thing that pisses me off) is that I feel like I have to be careful now who I tell that I’m trans. Right after I first transitioned, I tried to keep that a secret and let everyone believe I was a cis woman. Or…not really that, but I just didn’t talk about it or bring it up and didn’t want people to know. After about a year or so of that, I realized I had put myself back into a different closet, and it sucked. So I started being a lot more open about the fact that I was trans, and it was honestly pretty great. I mean, it wasn’t the first thing I told someone after meeting them, but at an appropriate time if it looked like this person was going to become a friend, I told them. And it was liberating. And I don’t feel safe doing that anymore, and I fucking hate it.