Yeah, and I accidentally the whole reason I brought up rape in the first place, which was because it figures in to the case I linked to.
The thing is, this bugs me:
the average predator isn't a twisted older man trawling for kids; rather, "most children are sexually solicited by their classmates, peers, or young adults just a few years older than they are."
It's mostly this one thing, so it isn't that other thing at all.
But the thing is, I think Dateline NBC pretty much proved that there are creepy old guys trawling for kids; it's just that they're more likely to be trawled by their peers.
It's that sort of thinking I had meant to highlight, and I run into it quite a bit; statistically rapists are known to the victim, so teaching karate to women is a fail. Only three percent of men in America have reported being raped, so talking about it is derailing. Statistically children will be sexually assaulted by someone they know, so we need to stop fussing over creepy strangers in our neighborhoods.
The thing is, I doubt a male rape victim appreciates being told they don't matter, nor do I assume that Madonna would appreciate being told she's statistically insignificant, and I especially doubt that Amy Schulz's parents--if you didn't read the link, she was lured into a car with a stranger, then brutally raped and stomped to death--is an anomaly and that people shouldn't really worry about it.
Now, having said that, my own state has made a mockery of keeping track of such things. I don't even pay attention to the sex offender registry, because I live in an area full of drunks, and there are locals on the list that got there through public urination. The list is useless.
With my own kids: my five-year-old is outside while I'm typing this. Where is she? Not sure, but I'm 99% sure she's in the yard, because I hear her. Now, if I saw a skeevy car out there--likely, because we have a constant supply of Walter White wannabes that move into rentals on our road--I'll keep an eye out. I do agree that some parents take it waaaaay too far, but I do teach my kids to be cautious around strangers, and to be cautious about what they're asked to do, even by people they know.