Edit: It seems the title caused confusion. To clarify, I’m suggesting we should focus on specific problems, like sexual abuse, and not continue a cycle of prejudice. I think prejudice is a very real problem that’s made worse by… more prejudice.
I’m a white male feminist and I’m convinced that the world would be a better place if we had more women in power.
Being a feminist can be difficult sometimes. Some men give you grief for being effeminate, and some feminist women tend to dislike white men in general. It’s not always popular, but it’s what I think is right. There are major problems with power imbalance, abuse and pay inequality perpetuated by some men. However self serving it may be, I think it’s better to focus on the problem without bunching a group of people together.
Take sexual abuse: I’ve seen people connect this to a system that favours mostly white men, but isn’t the actual problem sexual abuse? Have boy and men not experienced rape? Have women or people of other races never sexually abused anyone? Tying sexual abuse to white male problem alienates the victims of non-white men.
The only demographic you should blame for sexual abuse is sexual abusers.
The gender wage gap: Men tend to earn more than women, and that is the problem. It’s really inefficient to focus on hostility toward white men in general, and not the issue itself. I say that because even when women write their own pay checks, they tend to pay themselves less than men do. The problem is the gap, and it will be much harder to solve through prejudice channels which makes people defensive.
I think humans make the most positive strides when we solve problems as a group. Our worst times are when we treat groups of people with prejudice, like problems.