Here is where we have common ground. But I’d characterise continually phrasing an argument in terms that aren’t shared by the participants as a form of arrogant dismissal. It says ‘my frame of reference is the only correct one. Your experience is of no value’. It just leads to responses like this.
People who don’t feel valued instinctively reject the message, or just don’t hear it no matter how often you ‘lead the horse to water’. As you say, we aren’t entirely rational actors.
