I guess my point is, she’d heard a million equally nice things said about her and her life choices long before she expressed any doubts about vaccination, or started seeing doctors you don’t approve of.
Her “resistance” seems to have been limited to the “I’ll make up my own schedule” variety. Now, I’m as pro-vaccine and pro-Western/allopathic/orthodox/whatever-you-want-to-call-it medicine as they come. So I guess are you. She falls short of our beautiful standards in that respect, if not as short as full refuseniks. She makes choices we wouldn’t for her children. Why do people–intelligent people, scientifically educated people–do these things?
The complicated answer is that what medicine is “loopy” and what is “scientific” is culturally contingent–but the complicated answer usually involves the person giving it writing long and incomplete disquisitions on the sociology of science, and the person the disquisition is aimed at screeching in frustration because they’ve got a more “objective” definition in mind.
The less complicated answer is that the millionth time someone tells you, “Ugh, no, sigh, wrong, dummy,” whether it’s about vaccine schedules or anything else, a powerful human impulse arises in you to resist, and also to finish a lot of sentences with “…and the horse you rode in on.”
Snarking and sneering has passed the point of marginal utility with anti-vax crowd. Education hasn’t, but hectoring has. If you don’t believe it, find an anti-vax mommy-blog, of which there are many, and feel your collar get hot as you read the snarky things they’re saying about you. Does it make you want to change your mind? Are you in any way moved to dispassionately reconsider which authorities you trust on the topic?