Ugh... I reallly don't like the way we treat death in the "west"--it feels like we are not engaged with the process of dying at all anymore and we do as much as we can to gloss it over. I'm not religious at all, but I really like the Islamic mode of burial--you're supposed to prepare (by that, you clean the body, no getting rid of fluids, no embalming, etc) and bury the deceased before sundown, wrapped in a white shroud--I assume you have an imam say a few words, too, but it's the family that does the hard work, traditionally speaking. I really like the simplicity in that. I'd guess it's similar for Judaism, but I don't know for sure.
I guess until pretty recently in the west, the family would have the body at home and have a wake at home (which is not as necessary now as it used to be, as it's easier to tell when someone is truly deceased).
I really just want to be put in the ground, with a minimum of wrappings, as soon as possible when I go. I don't particularly want a marker or grave stone, either, but if my family must, a simple stone would be perfect. I like the idea of a green funeral. I don't want to be embalmed or cremated, honestly. However, I fully expect everyone to have a big party, which is some combination of New Orleans funeral-march and Irish wake... That being said, I'll be dead, so I won't really get a say, will I?