Jesus- he’s not even a billionaire.
Open season on women.
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[edit: I regret sharing this personal anecdote]
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Oh yeah. Fear of police is totally an abuser tactic. My dad wielded the fact that strangling women wasn’t considered real abuse for years so he’d do it and then threaten to get the cops to arrest us after. By my teens I had wised up a bit to the big lie here and also had a cell phone so I wouldn’t have to scramble for an exit or a specific location in the house… so I took to calling the cops on myself because hell, if I’m gonna die either way I’d rather die in a way that inconveniences him. But then I still had to take the “blame” for trying to ruin “our reputation” and the police are pretty much useless for actually dealing with domestic abuse, especially of teenage children.
And… he went on with impunity and continued to abuse women including his elderly mother until… I honestly don’t know because I haven’t had contact with him in years. I really tried to help my grandmother (yes including MANY fruitless APS visits where he got her to agree with him that family members were just calling APS to harass him and not because, he would, for instance, talk casually about “training her” to stay quiet in a full bathtub she couldn’t get out of for hours on end so he could have some personal time but openly threaten to kill me with the actual guns he’d already tried to kill me with if I showed up twice a week to bathe her myself because thought this might threaten his inheritance somehow). Eventually I was able to negotiate some end of life care which included regular visits. That was the most I could accomplish, and he fought tooth and nail against it because it was a “waste of his money” with “his money” being whatever was still in his mother’s bank accounts. When she died I finally decided to save myself and my sanity by bailing on the whole scene.
He managed to get charged with assault with a deadly weapon finally for pulling a gun on his girlfriend and he was offended let me tell you. But nothing came of it and he openly brags about how the lawyer he got was an expert on shutting up domestic abuse cases for police officers. Money matters, y’all. He actually called my mother (whom he regularly threatened with loaded guns) to complain about this evil woman for pressing charges.
Spent the majority of my adult life dealing with death threats from him, but also little that the police really can or will do about that because the perception tends to be “oh well he hasn’t done it yet…” Eventually, he quieted down and now every once in a while I get an email from him alternating between “who would treat their father like this… poor me abandoned all alone in the world… not even a card on my birthday” and “I’m going to mail bomb you and your partner, I can still build a bomb just as well as I ever could and I know where you live etc.”
At this point it’s pretty obvious senility has set in though, so my attitude is “prove you can then asshole” and so far so good. I have a sneaking suspicion the old drunk isn’t getting off of his nice middle class block until he runs out of cash for taxes and gets kicked out of it, and I’m very sure he’s now just the scary hoarder everyone wishes some one could do something about. Man, people like that… they don’t just get over their desire to torture and kill their family. If the family is lucky, really lucky, the abuser just becomes other people’s problem instead. In theory this is where the police should come in, but when they do it’s usually just to make sure the abuser gets an insulting slap on the wrist that gives them more motivation to kill you.
In the meantime I just can’t help but think of all the societal ills that would be drastically improved if we just treated violence against partners and family members the way we’d treat the same violence if it was being doled out to random white men. As it stands weak cowards like my dad have the system on their side the whole way through and even when a crack of light gets through the oppressive reality of domestic abuse, it’s usually just to blame the victim for not doing enough to keep this from bothering anyone else.
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Travis Barker didn’t “perceive” this as predatory behavior. It objectively IS predatory behavior! Good on Barker for speaking out.
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I’m sorry to hear that. I tried to pm since I don’t want to be super specific but it looks like your privacy settings don’t allow it.
I sympathize with you a lot.
Also sadly as a result of this kind of thing I can be way too prickly- like I overcompensate when I can push back against someone upsetting me.
(Sadly a few times that’s even been on this board though I’d like to think I’m doing better about being positive)
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Not me! Never! cough Yeah, that’s going to be an ongoing project for me too.
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California Gov. Gavin Newsom Says Gender Needs To Be Part Of Gun Violence Conversation
Time and again, mass shooters have had a history of misogyny, toxic masculinity and violence against women.
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Also, on basic facts, women have been wearing pants for thousands of years.
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Also - he assumes- likely because he hasn’t experienced it - that both men and women can’t appreciate the right guys nice legs or his Steve Rogersesque ass.
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Nothing can sexualize his body
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If a man can’t act like a decent human being because I’m wearing trousers, he’s welcome to poke out his eyes so it won’t be a problem for him anymore.
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Gurl, don’t be silly;
Roosh might be in physical possession of a penis, but that ain’t no "man."
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After wearing a utilikilt near daily for several years I am of the opinion that skirts for men should be a default.
Alas middle age spread and no budget for a new one put a stop to wearing it. Maybe I will fix that soon.
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That idiot doesn’t realize that for much of human history, men wore “dresses” too.
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