A thread of our own- misogyny (Part 1)

:thinking: I wonder if the legal system there supports not only ruling against him, but also compensating this woman in some way for all of the time he’s taken and trauma his behavior has caused for her. It also seems with all of the attention folks like this are giving to bad advice from incel groups that deprogramming is going to be the next big thing. What jumped out at me was that he continued after all that time seeing a therapist. It gives me a bad feeling that some initiatives focused on training men and boys will turn out to be a waste of time and money. Maybe there are “relationship rehab*” programs with a high long-term success rate, but if so, they’re flying well under the radar.

*Teaching what one actually is, as well as respect for the rights, agency, and boundaries of others.

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I recommend TP for him (therapeutic pain).

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Didn’t the showrunner deny this though?

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It sounds qualified. And come back in 6 months for the real story.

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Fair enough. Hard to keep up.

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Shoulder Shrug GIF

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I’m all for supporting breastfeeding, but I’m kind of sick of people who don’t (for WHATEVER reason) being shamed over it…

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I didn’t see this article as shaming parents who use formula, but going after companies that use marketing tricks to undermine breast feeding. There is no debating the benefits of breastmilk in infant nutrition, but in the end, a well fed, well nourished baby is the goal. I have these discussions daily with moms frustrated by sleeplessness and fussy babies who have been told that formula will fix it. What it can do is get Dad involved in those midnight feedings, and sometimes, for Mom’s mental health, that is worth some supplementing. But i still despise formula marketing.

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Here is the A(ustralian)BC piece on that report

Dr Phil Baker from Deakin University’s Institute for Physical Activity and Nutrition is the Series’ lead author. He acknowledges that sometimes breastfeeding is not possible, and that’s OK.
“Formula has a place, a role in society, as a regulated food product for woman and families who are unable to breastfeed.”
But he’s calling for the urgent adoption of an international treaty to better regulate formula marketing.

The point of the study isn’t to shame women who have to use formula, it’s to shame the corporations who are deliberately trying to convince women who don’t have to use formula that they do.

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Like Madonna or not, but she’s right…

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And, her plastic surgery choices are almost certainly part & parcel to that same misogyny and ageism.

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See Schitts Creek GIF by CBC

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To borrow phrasing from @anon61221983, like Chelsea Handler or not, I thought she did a great job on this:

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Dragons Den Television GIF by CBC

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If you spend your life being assumed to be less competent, less qualified to speak and less worthy of being listened to, more likely to be mocked, ignored or insulted, it inhibits your willingness to speak up and participate.

I maintain this is, consciously or not, a large chunk of this phenomenon. It lets folks like me control narratives and hold ourselves as the center of all things, while silencing “others” who could challenge that very comfortable position. I understand that. It would be nice to live a life largely unchallenged. But it would also be very not-real. Lack of challenge leads to complacency and arrogance. Not that we SWM would know anything about that, of course. The thing that bothers me most is i rarely see articles written by folks like me, only about folks like me. I suspect it’s the “fish and water” phenomenon, or a variant of “tough to make someone understand a thing, if their comfort depends on not understanding it.” I don’t want to say we suck, but i find few examples to say anything else. And, most importantly, it’s not the job of women, PoCs or anybody else to fix this. It’s my job, and others like me. And we need to be OK with being uncomfortable . And i apologize for me and my kind for being assholes. Even among kord progressive folks, it can be tough getting us to accept a tiny bit of what we have been inflicting on others.

One other thing, @anon61221983. Although this is a reply to you (or rather, to the article you posted) i know it’s not saying anything you don’t know. I felt the need to rant, and maybe one of my brethren will read this and have an epiphany. Or just hesitate the next time that urge hits, because that would be OK too.

Just saw this and had to add

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Some folks really need to develop a filter:

As a chaser, my aunt recently complained about the cookies costing $5.50 a box. They range between $5 to $6, depending on the area (or type of cookie). She said that when she sold them, they only cost fifty cents! That led me to consider arguments for cost reductions* to former scouts, so I’m sharing that with you.

As a veteran of the Girl Scout Cookie Wars of the late '70s and early '80s, I still have flashbacks from fighting the forces of Big Bakery in harsh winter weather. :cold_face: Damn Cookie Jarvis and those :face_with_symbols_over_mouth: Keebler elves. I’ll bet that cookie 'copter and tree were insulated! We were outside in the elements without the sales support of animated TV commercials. We had it tougher than scouts today, because back then there was no social media or online sales. We had to put up flyers on telephone poles and in the windows of local businesses that supported our cause. :fist:t4:

I wouldn’t have survived those battles without tactical support provided by my family, since my mother served as Cookie Mom a couple of times. Our living room was converted to a troop supply depot, with cases of cookies piled up to the ceiling. Of course that meant adding sentry duty to my sales patrol, with many a sleepless night spent on high alert. My ears were attuned to the sounds of midnight-snacking siblings who would have to pay dearly for every crumb found upon their lips. :imp: Any Cookie Moms finding opened or missing boxes meant KP duty for the scouts under their command. Surely, all that is worth a discount! They’d be able to ID any OG scouts by the secret handshake. :wink:

* jk, I actually pointed out increased production costs and inflation to her. Those kids today could really use the funds!
:cookie: :cookie: :yum:

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We thank you for your service!

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