Needed in the States, not just in non-industrialized countries, because actually dealing with childbirth as if the mother matters is not the norm.
I seem to remember a West Wing episode in which a fashion reporter was covering the WH and she made a grave mistake of mentioning the WH Press Secretaryâs change of attire after something bad happened.
Real life imitating art?
TMZ is still out to get Britney Spears
lots of unnamed sources and people having opinions about shit thatâs none of their business
Iâm so tired of hearing these kinds of comments about sexual assault victims and victims of domestic abuse:
Why didnât she leave
She consented to X, so the sexual assaults arenât as bad
He paid her money later, so now the sexual harassment and assaults are basically sex work
I can see how it is baffling that someone being abused doesnât leave if you donât think about it first. The abuse is almost never right off. First the abuser puts a lot of effort into gaslighting, gradually violating boundaries to erase them, manipulation, and so many other tricks to make sure the victim canât just leave.
If it was as simple as every domestic abuse or serial rape victim walking away, we wouldnât have the problems we do with domestic abuse.
Yeah, and still today, but even more so if youâre being triggered by the responses to the E. Jean Carroll case, women are socialized to be polite and not offend people and not show anger and basically accommodate others.
It makes the approach so much easier for the abusers.
Yes! Someone I love was in an abusive relationship. She had been conditioned from very young to be meek, agreeable, to agree with her husband, that divorce was not an option. She had low self esteem He pushed and manipulated until she didnât even recognize a lot of what he was doing as abuse.
She got out after 3 tries and has been out for about 2 years now. In the end, he cheated on her. That was finally enough and she left and divorced him. Iâm not sure she would have left from only the abuse. Sheâs been in therapy since, which is good.
It just isnât as simple as walking out the door
Iâm so glad for your loved one. Best of luck to her!
Kind of related, Iâve been getting annoyed all over again about people accusing victims who come forward as doing it for the attention or for the money.
It just makes me want to shake them and ask if they are living in reality?!? Who on earth would want the kind of attention the victims get??? Even in relatively low-profile cases, the women are smeared by the defendants, their character is questioned relentlessly, and theyâre basically called liars by most people.
Then in the high-profile cases, they also get stalked and get death threats and lose their jobs. Who on earth would want any of that kind of attention???
Interesting look into red state anti-feminist women taking full advantage of feminismâs hard-won victories, like no-fault divorce:
Gonna warn you⌠this is enragingâŚ
Iâll read it another time; donât wanna fuck up my decent mood
Yeah, good idea!