A thread of our own- misogyny (Part 1)

The extraterrestrial totally should have disintegrated him before beaming back up.

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Not all of him, just part of him.

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His brain, leaving him as a vegetable?

I can live with that.

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The change wouldn’t even be noticeable.

I meant his other brain.

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Not mentally maybe, but it would have an added benefit; no more motor functions.

If you only disintegrate ‘the little brain’, the dude still has working hands, feet and a huge butthurt ego, because he no longer can play with his favorite body part.

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Now, facing Lapsley, Aja said what she needed to say. “Oh, about that. Um, your doctor. He ejaculated — he masturbated on me.”

“All right,” said Lapsley, according to Aja. And then he followed up with a sarcastic query. “So — you want me to call the cops or something?

“He’s the victim,” a close associate told me at the time. “I don’t believe that he would do anything like this. My routine day is getting yelled at and cursed at by patients who aren’t getting what they want. I can imagine details where something happened where she didn’t get what she wanted and maybe this is retaliation. Or maybe she received pain medicine and it made her a little loopy or she hallucinated him … ” Here he trailed off.

It was looking like a dead end, and Aja could not tolerate that. She stopped them. “Spray that stuff on me,” she said.

Initially, the technician objected — the spray isn’t made for use on people. But Aja persisted. “I want to help,” she said. So the technician closed the door, Aja signed her consent and took off her hospital gown, and she was sprayed all over her body.

“I heard the whole room go” — here Aja sucks in her breath. “It was all over my face, all over between my breasts like I told her. I remember she started crying, and she was like, ‘Aja, don’t move.’

Edited to add quotes.

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I would love to say I am surprised, shocked or anything other than yeah, that sounds right.

“He also could be confrontational,” this friend said, “with a sometime violent temper and a heightened but fragile sense of his own importance”

This is the key phrase. His behavior sound like pretty classic bipolar, but there should never be a case like this, ever. And yet there are. I know of some here in my area. And often they are kept quiet, although that seems to be changing. Slowly. Too damn slowly. And in a case like this, where the victims were POC, poor, easy to dismiss, I can see how this went on. And the description of the environment there sounds about right as well. My profession can be great, I love what I do, but it also can attract men (almost always men) who are predators and a hospital at night can be an excellent hunting ground. Not just patients, either. Ask any nurses you know how often they are harassed at work. It is depressingly common behavior, and one of the reasons I left academic medicine.

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Thanks for adding your personal experience to this story. I have to admit that my eyebrows shot up when I read this:

Last June, a study by the National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine found that the incidence of sexual harassment within academic medical centers was unparalleled in any surveyed profession except the military.

I have had a couple of bad experiences with (male) doctors that I never reported.

Thank you for being an empathetic person in medicine. The nature of healthcare puts patients in such vulnerable positions. I am grateful to those who treat patients with dignity and humanity.

Edit: A wayward phrase.

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Reading shit like that is infuriating but not the least bit surprising.

Women have been dealing with sexual assault and harassment since the beginning of fucking time, to the point that I almost have to wonder why we haven’t yet evolved vaginal dentata and spiked barbs on our skin that emerge whenever we feel threatened.

SMGDH

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Please don’t blame this stuff on bipolar. I don’t act like this, and neither does anyone else with bipolar.

This is more like someone who has been coddled and ass kissed their entire career until they have turned from a normal person to a bit of a jerk to an unrelatable narcissist to a straight up violent criminal. I wish I could say that I didn’t recognize the pattern, but there is a pattern and it’s fairly common.

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You misread me. I don’t care what disorders he claims to have, the environment that allowed this to happen should absolutely never be. And yet it is, and in many places continues to be.

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Fair enough, but I don’t want to read “bipolar” within a mile of this kind of behavior.

The one thing that causes this isn’t any form of mental illness, but a horrifically broken system that turns ordinary people into violent narcissists.

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He really does not like being corrected by women, does he?

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Ten bucks says we won’t be seeing that clip on cable news.

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I learned something today:

C-SPAN is not here for any games, and they are not here to cover for any juvenile shenanigans.

They will happily speak plain and true.

ETA: They added a note: “This clip, title, and description were not created by C-SPAN.”

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Wanna bet Trump targets them next?

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I was honestly surprised the clip description wasn’t pulled already.

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I presume this would belong here. If not let me know.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/women-ernst-young-how-to-dress-act-around-men_n_5da721eee4b002e33e78606a

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2018???

Yeah, it belongs here.

I used to work in a place like that. Don’t get me started. It’s more expensive, time consuming, and of course painful (the shoes in particular) than what the men are expected to do. All because we are women first, and only considered employees after that fact.

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I am all for reasonable workplace attire rules whether gender based or not (collared shirts, skirts at a minimum length, no tank tops or flip flops…things like that where it is considered a professional (i.e. white collar) workplace. I get those sorts of things.

What E&Y outline there is way beyond anything reasonable.

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