Here is to hoping. It can’t rain every day and the cold cannot be always bitter.
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Nothing that isn’t booked months in advance for or I don’t qualify for because I’m too capable.
So if you reserve a space today you’ll be at the front of the line by April or May? Do it.
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I am so beyond hope. In the most positive way. I will make my own luck, I will be courteous to jerks, and I will work my butt off to nurture those I love and cherish.
That’s my job, and I am proud to do it.
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Try June/July and it’s only for medical needs type servicing.
Right now I’m waiting for the constant renovations to stop so I can go in town for a bit without feeling like I’m skipping out on work. I live close enough so it’s not bad. It’s just too much everything else.
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I got a update for windows 10 last week. My computer has gone from being stable to requiring multiple reboots every day. It’s my gaming PC, which I use to cope with the worst of my depression and PTSD (shooting pixels is infinitely preferable to shooting real people, no matter how arsehole-ish they are currently being). Steam just refuses to remain open for longer than about 10 minutes.
It was on deferred updates so I could avoid this kind of shit happening. I really don’t need this right now.
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Sure as hell is! I can be snarky, but I am in the mood to help and not not harp.
It sounds like your power supply is going out. Or a cable is in its last legs. I would recommend opening your tower, carefully reseating all your cables, give it a rest (capacitors), then try again.
If that doesn’t work, it is your power supply.
If that doesn’t work, you have a subtle short (cardboard works magic)
If that doesn’t work, then it gets 'spensive.
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Now that you mention it my guess would also be the power supply. While moving I found that several surge protectors were no longer functioning properly. It just seemed odd that all the problems started after an update with no signs of trouble before.
Maybe it was just about working before and it just crossed over to failing at the same time as the update.
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I think you are following the right trail. They fail often, and are cheap to replace.
Good luck, and happy gaming.
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Late last night found out that the blanket mom has ha for at least twenty years, probably longer, got shredded. Our fault for having box where dog could get to it (I did not pack the boxes) but still it annoys me because my dog.
Stepdad has been surprisingly and refreshingly not gonzo over this. Given he’s the one that put the boxes up I expect he’s internally beating himself up over it, but I half expected him to lose it.
Waverley… Something. It’s rose on one side stripe on the other and discontinued.
Annoyed because I feel obligated to find a way to secure a replacement. I mean fine wasn’t my idea to use the storage building as a dog house, but it’s still my dog.
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Given all the crap from them that you’ve reported (and your words have been heard here, even if some of us haven’t said anything), I wouldn’t feel too obligated.
It wasn’t your idea, and just because they’re acting, well, sane and reasonable for once (and not having a go at you. For once.) doesn’t wipe all the crap, and still doesn’t make it your responsibility.
I hope I’m not speaking out of turn - if I am, tell me and I’ll apologise and shut up.
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I mean I get where you are coming from, but while I shouldn’t feel obligated I do want to show them this is a positive direction by extending a hand out and go ‘This might have mostly been your goof but it’s still my dog. I would like. Help square ts.’
Less moral approach or posturing; I’m guilt tripping them about this with their own sense of responsibility since I’m the guy that doesn’t have going ‘help me find a way to fix this.’
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Okay, I do get that. It says good things about you that you want to do that too. And that actually fits with a learned negotiation strategy that I use sometimes (because that stuff doesn’t come naturally to me).
I’m, well, I felt I had to say that because I’m aware that in an abusive situation, ‘that’ party will switch to being reasonable from time to time and this wrong-foots the other and makes them doubt themself. (Deliberate or unconscious? It can be either and doesn’t matter.)
Sorry for digression, basically: Yes, I understand.
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I am being trolled. That is the only explanation for my stepdad’s response to me explaining what being a climate change denier means. ‘Well how do they know what the world was like? They weren’t there so how can they know what we’re supposed to have for weather?’
To just go 'these people who have spent collective lifetimes gathering data about what we know applying it to the past and then making models of the future that are proving accurate are flat out full of shit?
I literally can’t even…
I give up. I have officially given up on them.
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Probably. Either that or he’s waiting for a True Scotsman to explain things.
Smart move. 
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And how I fucking hate it.
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From what you been saying, it’s pretty clear that not matter what you do or say, he won’t respect your PoV. It’s like dealing with miserable, contrarian wankers on the intarwebs. Best not to engage or just a “yeah, if you like.” in return.
Course, it’s more difficult when you’re living with them. 
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I’m a scientist raised by an engineer in a family of engineers, so I don’t have this same exact problem of science denialism in my family, but outside the family I find out what they do for a living and promptly show it the same level of respect they show scientists doing science. I figure what’s good for the goose is good for the gander, and I find they either huff off or change their tone rather rapidly. Either way, I get what I want.
In your case, if he is driving trollies you, the same rules that apply to the Internet apply to real life, don’t feed the trolley unless you’re baiting a line to trolley back, and the latter is only attempted in the direst of circumstances/boredom. The way I see it, if you’re not having as much fun with him as he’s clearly having with you, then:
(I normally reserve posting that video for trollies, but I don’t mean it that way with regards to you, I just really like that video and wanted an excuse to post it, so I hope you don’t take it as animus directed at you.)
Either way, I wish you better luck in the future, or at least less aggravation. But what I’ve found in arguments with my family about other things, is that it helps to adopt a certain Zen about it, by which I mean a sense that your feelings about the situation, however valid, come from within and can thusly be controlled and mitigated. You need to leave him with the sense that you haven’t lost the argument, it’s just that the argument hasn’t ended, and possibly never will, and above all that this eternal state doesn’t bother you in the least. You don’t say any of this, you just smile knowingly and nod at the end of “arguments,” and they will always know that just because you’ve lost interest, it doesn’t imply assent of any kind. It can be aggravating, but you can’t let it rise to the surface. You need to express greater stoicism and assuredness than they, because what’s obvious to me (and I’m just gleaning this off how you describe your interactions, I could be wrong) is that they derive pleasure from your reaction. Learn from Pavlov: You need to make it unpleasant, or at very least, unrewarding, to trolley you. You’ll likely discover, to some disappointment, that the argument itself was never that important, and that needling you was the whole point all along. There’s something about the way that you describe your interactions that comes across as being deeply mean-spirited on their end. Nothing about that outgoing meanness is within your control, you can only control how receive and dissipate it, and it seems to me that they want a reaction. So don’t give them one. They get a kick out of their opinion mattering so much to you, so make it the least important thing that could ever cross your mind.
This is a lot of words to say that as hard as it is, you sound like you could benefit from a strong dose of not giving a fuck.
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My problem is it’s family so I give give a large number of fucks, because to the causal listener they sound like racist homophobe white people first implement christian law and Muslims are a breeding ground of terrorists.
They are family though and reducing them down to that. Reducing them down to all these liberal leaning articles that do the ‘here is why anyone not us are moron idiot monsters’ offends me because to put in slightly factually incorrect language but emotionally relevant language? I am trying to save them from the same trap of anger and bitterness I was falling into for several years that had me lashing out at everyone and curling in on their own hate as the only warm thing in their lives. That is not who raised me and taught me to always try to help, to be the bigger person, swallow your pride and ask for help if you need it, and that america is wonderful because anyone can come here and have a chance to be awesome in their own way.
And I have failed.
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I’m so tired and I don’t know why. I’ve had at least 9 1/2 hours sleep every night for a week, and I wasn’t losing sleep before then. This evening my wife prepared a meal and we were going to watch a movie together, but I had to leave after a short time. I just don’t have the energy to be around people or think straight, and it sucks.
This afternoon we took the kids to a pantomime and the library, and I think that was all of my spoons for the day.
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