All suck is relative mate - and few sucks suck like sucky software.
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One of the first things I do after installing Office 2013 for anyone is to set the “light grey” Office theme. (In File/Options/General) Leaving only the editing area white.
You might want to go with “dark grey.” Other than white, there are no other options. The “Office Backgrounds” just add clutter.
Edit: It feels wrong to offer Office 2013 advice after the other problems posted here, but this was a problem I could actually help with.
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I took my car in for an oil change and ended up with a laundry list of a bunch of little crap that has to be fixed. Not that I don’t expect to need regular repairs/maintenance for a 13+ year-old car, but I just didn’t want to have to pay for any right now.
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I voluntarily upgraded myself on Friday! The outlook “themes” are like staring into the sun, but I finally have tabbed conversations in Lync.
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So. My daughter isn’t graduating high school. This isn’t new, we’ve known it since the beginning of the year. She was ill for too long, her ADHD was out of control for too long, and her grades were in the toilet for too long. Even if she’d gotten straight A’s this year and taken summer school classes, she’d have been a full unit shy of graduation.
I am not handling it well. Lots of people don’t actually graduate high school (technically my sister didn’t; she was homeschooled and is now working on her second degree) but it’s just such a normal thing to me and it’s not happening. People are posting graduation photos of their kids on Facebook and I burst into tears every time I see one. I don’t get to see her graduate. I’ve done everything I could and I still feel like a total parental failure.
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You’re there, so not a total failure by any measure.
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I guarantee your daughter doesn’t think that. It sounds like you have been there to support her through a lot of very difficult times, I would bet everything under the sun that she sees you as the most important person in her life, and while she may not be graduating with her class she has survived 4 years of high school, which by itself deserves a banquet and celebration. I’m sure she has a very bright future ahead of her and I hope your family still has some kind of celebration to mark the end of high school, or if she plans on going back to take a fifth year, the survival of 4 very very very hard years of high school. It could be a good boost of morale for everyone.
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Where is the “horror” icon I need to click here?
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Something for you, and really anyone, who is having a fucked up day, week, month, etc.
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You’ve done everything you could, like support her and get her to the right specialists so that her medical problems could be diagnosed and then treated. All those kids graduating, they didn’t have those issues to deal with. She’ll get there, she just won’t get there this year.
And for heaven’s sake, don’t log onto Facebook until the end of June!!!
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Not at all.
She’s taking care of business, it sounds like- and it sounds like you’ve been helping her do that- which is all you can really do. The “graduate high school in 4 years” thing is a trope, but it isn’t the only trope. Lots of people end up taking “more time” than “they’re supposed to” with this sort of thing- in fact, the idea that every single person should be able to get through high school in 4 years regardless of what life throws at them is a bit nuts, really. People are complicated, and so is life.
It’s not a race and it’s not a contest.
Stay calm, first and foremost. Help her get a plan together for what comes next, and then that’s what you do. How do we eat an elephant? One bite at a time.
Don’t eat elephants. They’re nice, I’m told.
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Oh no. That is completely shitty. Crap.
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Well, first I want to say that I’m sorry.
Also, I really like what @nothingfuture writes:
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Your daughter is still a wonderful young lady.
Finally, listen to @anon67050589:
And remember that high school (and all that it encompasses) will be a blink in both your eyes beginning July 1.
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So… on this exact topic of Fuck Today, what exactly are one’s legal options when one is getting taken to court over failure to pay back student loans and one has no job or steady income? Oh, and a parent is a cosigner on the loan. 
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You find a lawyer that specializes in student loan default defenses (so that they know some of the more subtle ways to deal with these debts), one that charges a flat fee. I think the going rate is around 10% of the default amount. You might also be able to find some consumer advisory agency first that helps clarify your options, but if you are already at the taken to court stage then I think you need to lawyer up. If you do talk to such an agency, again make sure they are specialists, and not - for example - a credit repair service.
If the suit is from a troll company like National Collegiate you even have a chance of getting the entire debt discharged.
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Legal options? Picky picky, if that’s your criteria then I won’t even bother giving you my suggestion… actually I will give you one suggestion for legal option, vote for Bernie Sanders in the Democratic primary if you are able to and your state hasn’t had its election yet.
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I feel I’ve shown up here far too often, but christ… overnight, a 45 year old friend died. She’d been in hospital for a short while with suspected pneumonia which turned out to be blood clots, which killed her. It’s a cliche, but she was so full of life, always singing and laughing, devoted to her rescue greyhound and animal welfare causes, and now she’s… just gone. It’s fucking ridiculous bullshit. Oh, and it was her birthday this past Saturday. Thank god I sent her a text for it.
Also, late yesterday I received a second rejection of my claim for unemployment benefits, which I thought I’d sorted out by phone and was told was being reviewed on Tuesday. I suspect this second rejection has ‘crossed over’ between the last lot of documents I submitted on 19 May and Tuesday’s phone call. But it’s another layer of bureaucracy I have to fight through and which will likely further delay any payments, should the review decide my claim can go ahead. Which it should because I was told on Tuesday the rejection is their mistake and I’ve satisfied all the requirements. But I’m exhausted by the battle…
Anyway, so yeah: FUCK TODAY 
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Already did so. He lost.
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Sorry to use an old meme, but:
So many of the issues with student loans make no sense. It’s insane how much debt is involved in having a chance to live a normal life where you’re healthy, educated and living in a secure environment. Being taken to court for not being capable of paying off this debt or facing many decades of repayments like @japhroaig’s ex-wife seems so transparently bad for almost everyone, and it can’t can’t help the competitiveness of the US compared to countries where people don’t have this kind of pressure.
I’m really sorry that you and @jyoti are going through these problems, and I wish there was something better we could do than wish you success.
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It is, in fact, from National Collegiate; any more detailed advice? You mentioned the possibility of getting the whole thing discharged.
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