That’s a good question and brings me back to this:[quote=“Mindysan33, post:23, topic:85445”]
When people talk about their experiences in this world, it kind of blows that there are people who say “well I don’t see it” first thing.
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The response to “Well I don’t see it” should be “Are we talking about my experience or yours?”
It seems obvious to me that other people have experiences that differ from mine which makes it difficult for me to know how to deal with people who think everyone sees the world from their viewpoint, or should.
I almost wish I saw conversations that way, then I’d probably be more engaged. I don’t mean to sound so antisocial, people seem to like me and I have been called outgoing (though I suspect I’m faking it somehow.) But I’ve recently noticed that I feel like I’m trying to finish other people’s sentences too much, because I feel like people are taking too long to say A Thing, and I’m eager for them to move on to the next idea. It’s not so much that I don’t care what they’re saying, but more that I know what they’re saying or are about to say and I get antsy when people haven’t moved off it. But it’s kind of a recent thing. I suspect it’s some combination of stress and preoccupation. Not that it’s good habit I’d like to develop more.
That’s a great retort; given to any rational person capable of analytical thinking, it should cause them to realize that they are speaking from their own inherent bias.
And if they are mature rational people, they can come to this realization without taking it personally…
But alas; methinks that’s often where the problem lies.
I have a thing kinda like that, not with finishing people’s sentences, but I may move on to my next thought and say my next words without first acknowledging that I’ve heard what they said.
Of course I’ve heard them, and in my own mind I’ve acknowledged them, but I tend to neglect making that overt. While sometimes it could be obvious in my response, other times the connection between their words and my next ones may be less obvious to them than it is to me.
It seems trite, but I’ve learned that repeating back some of what someone said, or saying “Do you mean, [rephrasing] ?” and then let them keep talking and expand on it, may seem to slow a conversation down, but it goes a long way for good will and better communication in the long run. I think it’s really important that people know and feel that they’ve been heard. And hard to always remember to acknowledge receipt.
Well I am colour blind, and I’ve no idea if I’m missing something in your spottyagram or not. I was told I was colour blind at school, but the tester neglected to tell me what I can’t see. Pffft.
No, if you read my words carefully and completely you’ll see that I clearly state I know that this happens in the world but luckily it is not a part of my company’s culture (that I have witnessed, and I’ve been there over a decade) and that it pisses me off that it in fact does exist and that women have to suffer it. I’m not some neanderthal… I’m on your side (I’m assuming you’re female).
I had a huge rant here, but then I realized that would just send the wrong message when all I really want to do is show you the support and understanding you deserve.
So, even if you view me as some sort of dismissive enemy, just know, I’m not and I’ll be fighting the fight for your side if the situation arises in my purview.
And again, I know it does exist out there and I’m sorry for any of it you’ve had to deal with from the lesser of my gender.
