Or keep it running on idle, paperwork only, for tax purposes.
…if the marriage doesn’t work as a marriage anymore, does it then count as tax fraud?
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I’ve known a few uberCatholic families who refuse to get divorced even after they sleep in different beds or live in different homes and hate each other. If that’s not fraud, I think the rest are safe.
There are so many worse reasons to get and stay married, people who use the benefits allotted are at least a step above in my book.
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Only if one of you is an immigrant…
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I suppose it depends on what you mean by the here and now then. In theory, marriage is for life. That isn’t always how it works out, but it’s a pretty prominent part of the agreement. For that reason, you have to focus on long term trends, compromise, go through bad times together, learn how to deal with conflict and a whole list of other things if it’s going to last. Sometimes it’s not working now, but it has potential for the future. That’s where marriage counselling can help. Sometimes it’s over, and that’s also OK. I’ve told my wife that if the situation a few years ago had gone on and got worse, I’d have looked for a way to part as friends. It really wouldn’t have helped anyone to keep it going if we were moving in different directions, and bringing kids into the equation would only have made things worse. As it turns out, it was a tough year that got better, and we gained new respect for each other through it. Most 30+ year marriages seem to have been through similar times - it’s normal and can be positive over the long term, where damaging trends are properly addressed.
I kind of like this overview of some positive relationship traits - the part about being willing to end it is important, because there’s a whole lot that can go wrong in a relationship without affairs and abuse being involved.
my in-laws.
Personally, being in their bitter space makes me think
“Just get a divorce already!”
But they grew up in a time when it wasn’t okay socially.
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Yeah, my in-laws are a case where the mother wishes she’d had the “spirit” to do so decades ago. The last person I dated also had a mother who felt trapped in a loveless and troublesome marriage, and my spouse’s last partner’s parents were an example of Catholics who loathed each other and lived separately but refused to get a divorce due to religious bullheadedness.
As someone who really struggled over whether to get a divorce or no, now that I’ve come out the other end, I look at people who have put themselves in these situations and am so exasperated.
No one really cares if you get a divorce or not, and being miserable is a real turnoff to everyone around you.
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Based on the number of real women participating in AM, world-wide, it seems most likely the man quoted is lying his a$$ off. This one man scored with 5% of the total female membership of AM while the 20 million other male members (pun intended) got nothing?
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