she's probably in denial. I was no older than twelve when I first saw TBC. I was certainly naive, but nothing in that film went completely over my head. but, it's possible ten-year-old me might not have grasped all the nuances. In any case, sensitive children don't like talking about taboo topics with adults, to say nothing of their parents, as it is a form of dissection. there is no upside; like talking politics in the workplace, except you aren't on the equal footing of being a fellow adult. children that don't mind that line of conversation are either unaware of the dynamic or insensitive enough to not care, or both.
that podcast was pretty cringe-y, but what I found interesting is that Ringwald's voice and speech affectations, sighs, etc sound exactly like when she was in those Hughes films. I guess that shouldn't be too shocking. Then again, my timeline is skewed because what I'm assuming to be her teenage voice--due to the roles she played--is more probably her twenties voice (and therefore more of her adult self) due to the likelihood of her actual age being different than her characters'. So, even if in retrospect I can explain it logically, it still surprised me quite a bit. Particularly without video that shows her age, it sounded like was like she was narrating directly from Shermer High's library circa 1985.