I’ve gotten a lot of help with writing letters from this book: How To Say It : Choice Words, Phrases, Sentences, and Paragraphs for Every Situation
by Rosalie Maggio https://www.amazon.com/How-Say-Rosalie-Maggio/dp/B002XULXCE (I have an earlier edition) The author explains when and why to write specific kinds of letters, also what to avoid saying in various situations. There are collections of words, phrases, sentences, and paragraphs for each type of letter, that can give you ideas of what’s appropriate, that can greatly increase your confidence writing, and can save you a lot of time and mental anguish about doing it.
There’s lots of good advice in this thread so far, I’d say. I second @tachin1 above, “Just don’t put off writing for too long”.
I would consider whether “receiving mail” means that you necessarily have to produce something touchy feely.
I’d suggest sending something very brief, right away. You could buy a nice greeting card that has a picture you think she might enjoy looking at. If it’s a blank card, write only a line or two inside. If it’s a pre-printed card (like a “Thinking of You” card that has a verse or a few lines on the inside) make sure that what’s already there is appropriate, and just be sure to add at least one sentence in your own handwriting. You don’t have to be newsy. For something to say, you can even just refer to sending the card itself, like: Hi Grandma, I wanted to be sure you know I’m thinking of you, and thought you might enjoy the picture on this card. Love, fuzzyfungus.
Again, sooner is better, and make it brief.
- That can serve as a warmup, an ice-breaker, and you can follow up later with something more as you feel up to it.
- If you’re never able to write the touchy-feely/newsy/longer things you may be thinking you should, or if Fate somehow intervenes for your grandmother sooner than expected, she did receive mail from you and she knew you cared.
Best wishes for you and your family.