Planning violence against someone probably means that you could have planned another reaction, leaving out violence. Defending yourself by projecting violence at an attacker is of a completely different moral quality. So I agree wholeheartedly!
Responsible, moral adults can use violence in certain situations without compromising themselves.
On the plus side, pretty much anything smart enough to have a central nervous system(and possibly some slime molds) has some sort of mechanism for learning to avoid aversive stimuli, so you donât necessarily need to win on moral suasion to get the desired result.
The âlet them hate; so long as they fearâ school of order maintenance isnât optimal; but it has maintained a certain amount of order throughout history.
In Russia, menu orders you?
In Russia, waitress serves YOUâŚno, waitâŚ
As it happens, âservedâ is a pretty flexible word. Waitresses perform one definition of it; he demanded that a waitress perform a second definition of it; and he got a third definition of it. Good and hard.
This was the kind and gentle response. A menu thwap is pretty harmless compared to what could have happened to him. Sounds like this boy couldnât hold his liquor, or keep his hands to himself.
Itâs important to note that she didnât initiate the violence, she was just much better at it.
Gaw, that was acutely cathartic. Quickly dampened the adrenal response to an asshat asshatting.
This is awesome but it feels a bit staged.
All the worldâs a stage, And all the men and women merely players.
And this particular playa just met the âVaudeville Hook.â
It bugs me that the other waitress goes to assist the guy. He already has a crowd helping him, she ought to have gone to call security or the authorities since he was the instigator. It makes me worry that it is the sort of establishment where the customer is âalways rightâ and sheâs thinking âWelp, Iâm not losing my job.â. I hope Iâm wrong and that the other server wasnât punished for defending herself.
It tends to make you look like the Unabomber. To my mind, only Ezio Auditore can pull it offâŚ
âŚokay, one other
And thatâs a problem exactly⌠why?
So some garments offend some peoplesâ tender visual sensibilities. Thatâs not my problem. Thatâs their problem. My problem is if whatever I wear is warm, soft, practical. How it feels to me, not how it looks to them.
Itâs my problem, no one elses 
How very considerate and not at all solipsistic.
The externalities for me being irritated is much higher than the externalities of looks. Getting a mad scientist unnecessarily irked is generally not a wise idea, bad things may happen. So I am actually being considerate, in a substance-above-appearance way.
I dunno - if you watch the timing, she doesnât see what happens at all. She comes around the corner just in time for Wham. What happens next doesnât look so much like siding with the customer, as trying to figure out what on earth to do. She pretty much gets a look-in before she goes back to the counter.
I donât think youâre seeing her assisting, I think youâre seeing a deer in headlights.
Thatâs a good point. I thought she arrived sooner to see the second- and ultimate- menu strike, but youâre right; she may have missed the whole thing.
I just worked in so many companies where the employee always got thrown under the bus no matter what. I still would like to know that the other waitress is okay and kept her job.
The pithy headline does this post a disservice. How about âWaitress fights back against sexual assault from customerâ?
The dissonance between the attempt at humor in the headline and the reality of the assault is utterly beneath you, Mark. âImpudentâ? It goes a lot further than disrespect⌠itâs fucking assault. Period. Get your shit together.
What is wrong with you people? Unwanted sexual advances are a problem, but you think glorifying bashing someoneâs head in is an appropriate response? This is the better world you want to see?
