I concur.
But you started off by saying that itās not always possible to tell the difference. And if the difference isnāt apparent, then the motivation becomes pretty academic.
Iām doing my best with the questions and statements directed at me, and I mean no offense. If thatās double-dealing, Iām going to keep doing it.
I donāt actually like to argue with people. I donāt enjoy it at all.
Yāall want me to change my mind. I am explaining why I am not doing so. This may be seen as unacceptable by people who have a win/lose model of conversation, but I canāt help that. Iām not trying to win or lose the thread.
Weighting personal observation more than a thousand times higher than independent observations would be extremely excessive. And not at all applicable to this case, either; Adams has at least as many fans as foes. Just not on this blog.
Usually, in cases of conflicting observations, one suspects that the investigation is framed improperly, and devises a means to discover if that is so.
I donāt know him in meatspace, I have corresponded with him a few times. At one time he personally replied to literally every single email he was sent, but eventually that became impossible due to the quantity of mail.
What? That sounds like the very definition of an asshole.
The motivation is introduced specifically to discount the asshole behavior. The difference is not academic, it is the entire purpose to their pleas. They invent the story.
I donāt follow. What definition are you referring to?
A perfect definition of asshole you offered us (perhaps confusingly as you suggested that it meant ānot assholeā)
āsomeone who is just saying something that he knows will get a rise out of people and garner attentionā
Oxford:
North American
vulgar slang
1 A personās anus.
2 A stupid, irritating, or contemptible person.
Both seem apt.
I see. So let me introduce an example:
Say some guy, letās call him Shkot, says he wants to implement a Brave New World style caste system. Now I think thatās a stupid idea and it probably qualifies him under the Oxford definition of an asshole.
But I still might be curious as to why Shkot holds such a contemptible opinion. Maybe he doesnāt really understand what heās advocating or maybe there are nuances to his position that havenāt been revealed. Maybe there are downsides to this opinion that he has not been made aware of. The point is, he actually holds that opinion and it might be worth asking why.
But what if instead Shkot is just saying that stuff to fuck with me. He knows that I and a lot of other people find that idea contemptible so he just says it without even necessarily believing it. Heās still being an asshole but this is a different level of asshole. A meta-asshole maybe.
The first kind of asshole might be worth talking to or talking about. The second kind is not and is best ignored.
When I see people saying things I donāt agree with I often will explain why I donāt agree. I do this with no expectation that the personās mind will be changed, only with the hope that I might be offering a view that plants a seed to eventually change a mind or with the hope theyāll reply with something thatāll do the same for me, and Iāve certainly changed my views over time on many and various things due to this process, though rarely as a result of a single discussion of anything.
On this we differ, alas, and I envy you. I really like arguing with people. Really far too much.
So, an asshole.
You depict a particularly shallow strata.
D. W. Griffith is a professional entertainer, whose body of work relies on presenting caricatures of reality that are exaggerated to the point of absurdity as though that were everyday normality.
He gives you a world where camera placement and lighting heightens mood and tension, Lillian Gish always finds love, and a secret society in the post-war American South dresses up as ghosts - but nobody see this as strange. Itās completely, thoroughly deadpan, and relies on gross caricatures and stereotypes.
I find this amusing. I donāt take any of it as having meaning beyond making me laugh.
In this case, weāre talking about the scriptwriter, and how his characters dialogue mirrors his posts on public media.
I gave you a direct example where you outright said none of us have tried to deal with this honestly, yet still turned around and insisted you had only given your perspective and not discounted ours. That sort of thing is double-dealing, as I believe you know. Whether it means offense, I for one canāt help but take it at having that kind of casual disingenuity directed at us, particularly if you then pretend Iām imagining what I quoted.
I think you could do your best with the questions and statements directed to you while still being upfront about how you have been answering them, thank you.
If youāre not getting what @anon61221983 is saying, itās perfectly reasonable to say thatās because you suck and youāre too tired to thinking about it. (Perhaps my own sense of humor is terrible, I can accept that, but humor is subjective.) Nonetheless saying you are listening to what Mindy is saying about being a woman is demonstrably false.
oh jesus f**k, man. Thatās some serious douchesplaining right there,
A: Youāre not listening and being very offensive right now.
B: No, Iām not. I am supporting you. You need to listen better. And here are some more things youāre wrong about.
Carol is probably the best character in the strip, a long put-upon secretary that takes orders from a moron, dishes it right back, and continues to pull down a paycheck. That you think she is deplorable says a lot.
Dilbert has no redeeming features? The readers of Dilbert are not supposed to identify with the titular protagonist?
No, itās not. Itās treating them, as he does, worse.
If I hate everybody, and I punch you once and punch @daneel once and punch @TobinL once and punch @anon61221983 twice and punch @chenille twice and punch @anon67050589 twice are you with a straight face going to tell me that Iām being fair and equal?
I havenāt read much Dilbert lately, but it used to be one of my favorite strips. Well written, well paced. Iām not happy thinking about all of those strips in retrospect. If I retcon Carol and Alice the main characters maybe that will helpā¦
What about Bob and Ted?
Heh.
Bob the Dinosaur is definitely a non-deplorable character.
Is Ted the guy from accounting who says āCripes, this is my Tuesday lunch bagā or the āI like to type the number 6ā guy? (my favorite strip and I get your reference).
That looks more like MRA Dilbert. Scott Adams doesnāt usually put his views quite so directly on his charactersā mouths.
Those are quotes directly from a blog post of his. Covered by the Mary Sue here: