Hmm. That didn’t actually sit well with me when Michelle Obama was saying it (“When they go low, we go high.” audience dutifully applauds).
The Obamas often both seemed too disengaged when under attack – like they weren’t even willing to fight back, let alone stoop to using the tactics of their enemies. There is a difference there.
No. Then it becomes a question of fighting against the secessionists or leaving. I have no idea what I or @Jilly would do, frankly. Only one side of my family has southern roots - the other side is from MA and NJ (where I still have family).
My apartment in TJ (8 miles from the border) has another bedroom that I store art equipment in. It’s available for anyone in a dire situation. Gotta bring something to sleep on, though.