We don't know Bedilia's complacency is in her involvement with Hannibal, she is implicated somehow.
The line, I believe, is "Don't feel guilty for eating anything." Not "I don't.." Remember, he has fed Jack before - many many things.
The violence really echoes the violence of familial abuse, the intimacy in which the perpetrator has access to everything and is familiar with everyone. There is no one untouched.
And what is truly powerful about this series is the beauty, the color, the texture, the movement from scene to scene, the timing of movement... And the soundscapes match so well. It is beyond beautiful, not just a mental exercise or titillating but using the media in a way I am pleased to be able to enjoy. Which is truly disturbing, we are dining at Hannibal's table and we don't know what we are being fed but how can one look away from this cannibalistic visual feast?