Relevant politics necessitate that I post this.
At around 20 weeks, we got the results. Our baby had an unbalanced translocation of the fifth and ninth chromosome. We spoke to another doctor, and to a geneticist. This was a bad diagnosis. It was beyond bad. I learned a new term: The defect was called “incompatible with life”.
When people talk about abortion being a choice, I need you to understand with crystal clarity exactly what our choice was: It was not whether our child would live or die- it was the choice of how much they would suffer, of how long we would drag their death out. Our daughter’s “best” possible case scenario would be to linger for several days on full life support. The broken chromosomes were ones associated with autonomic functions- Breathing. Heartbeat. Digestion. She would be unable to do these on her own once separated from the umbilical cord. That was the short, terrible, artificially sustained life she had to look forward to.