I’m baffled by how worked up some folks get about their experiences here. I mean … sometimes it’s not worth it. And my sometimes I mean almost always. Really in the grand scheme of things, who gives a shit if your post got flagged or deleted when you feel like it should not have. Unless your post contained the only documentation of the cure for cancer, who cares … move on.
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if you asked you’d likely get a friendly response.
But since you’re just stating your ignorance I’m going to treat you as ignorant. maybe slightly better.
He tried to prove that you wouldn’t respect the “Don’t reply to me” request if it were presented to you.
You took the bait: hook, line, and sinker.
I don’t believe for a second that that request was made in good faith, rather than to provoke this very argument so that he could accuse you of hypocrisy, but you fell for it, and, after his “A-ha!” post, the rest of this argument has added nothing of content on either side beyond that. Past that, it’s all been accusations and quibbling, going both ways.
Seriously. This is the conversation I see.
“He should not have replied after she told him not to.”
“I’m holding you to you own standard and telling you not to reply to me.”
“Don’t tell me what my standards are!”
“Ha! You replied to me after I asked you not to, meaning you’re a hypocrite! And here’s a quote of what you said. That’s where I’m getting ‘your standards.’”
“You’re literally putting words in my mouth when you tell me what my own standards are!”
“No, I’m not. (because you’re using the word ‘literally’ to mean ‘not literally.’)”
“You’re gaslighting me when you say you’re not!”
“You’re not arguing in good faith.”
“YOU’RE not arguing in good faith!”
It really doesn’t make either of you look good.
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Its not my argument. Never was.
All I said is that it’s rude to reply when someone asks you to not.
I am being rude to that user. yes, I am. Without a doubt, and without shame, and without a chance of stopping until I see some of the humility he seeks, being offered by him.
again, not why I am here. Don’t mind a bit. this is one thread.
I’d like this to be a place where someone says “here are the links to the point I am making” not “waaaah butthurt my precious words were stolen but I won’t prove it to you or document it because you’re not worth it”.
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Which post and thread are you even talking about? It sounds like you make no distinction between hostile and argumentative. Most internet posts are argumentative, witness this thread.
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And, had you said that in reply to this post, rather than “Don’t tell me what my standards are,” this topic would (probably) be 20% shorter.
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and it looks like you too see no distinction, even when nicely told you’re behaving as the former.
maybe you were?
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Toodles, enjoy your discussion all, I think I just might mute this thread now.
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Which actually has nothing to do with my original anecdote. The issue was that I replied to the person that replied to her, and was deleted because she wanted no discussion of the topic no matter who was taking to whom.
i believe I said it is rude and aggressive to tell me what my standards are, and he might consider stopping that.
Please, maybe don’t quote what I ‘effectively’ said. Quote words said. Don’t abuse those little things, the quotation marks, they’re precious to you when they’re your words.
Of course, you’re free to interpret me as much as you like, naturally - but holding someone to what you’ve added to their words… well that’s dirty pool.
yes, I am playing dirty pool now with one user. But only that one.
@Skeptic and @AcerPlatanoides, you two don’t play well together. Unless you can share nicely, you need to leave each other alone.
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Ok, seriously.
The mods here have one of the most thankless jobs I can imagine, and they work tirelessly to keep the bbs what I would arguably call one of the greatest bastions of blog commenting around. they do this without imposing insanely complex community guidelines, and they do it, in large part, with your help, alerting them to issues to be addressed.
Contrary to popular belief, all of us putting in effort on behalf of Boing Boing are human. After more than a decade working alongside the rest of the boingers, I can tell you two things: 1) that they are trying to act in good faith, be it in posts, in comments, on social media, what-have-you, and 2) that more than anything they’d like bbs to be a place where respect and civility can reign without draconian policies.
I don’t know if Mr. Luckdragon is going to drop the banhammer on a bunch of commenters on this thread or not, but I will tell you this. Somewhere the mantra of “Be cool” fell way off the rails here. Take a deep breath and relax.
As to the thread topic? Yes, please please flag comments. the mods aren’t superhuman, and it’s only with your help that they can work to make the bbs a better place for civilized discourse. That’s why you come here, right?
I assure you that continued disrespective or disruptive behaviour following this post will result in most unpleasant repercussions for those involved.
Thank you. heads back into the Jefferies tubes
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Maybe once you accept that the PTB determine the value and worth of words published on their platform, you’ll be more comfortable here.
Know what else your answer has nothjing to do with? A simple kind question you have refused to even acknowledge 3 times now.
maybe it’s you.
You are truly going to die on this hill?
M to A: I’m not interested in conversing with you, thanks.
G to A: I’m not afraid of ideas, I’ll converse with you…
That is hostile, period. You are arguing degree at this point and have no leg to stand on with regards to purpose. You singled out another user, and insulted them in a very passive aggressive way.
You feel like you were not being enough of a dick to justify the flag, and entered this thread claiming that meant you were being bullied by regulars in the forum.
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Why don’t you be a nice teacher and explain, with examples or references to my linked text. Otherwise you’re blowing smoke and going all Potter Stewart “I know it when I see it”.
Mod note: Relax.
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I can share nicely. I’m really waiting on a nicely shared answer to the earlier assurance that his outrage was justified, but he just couldn’t be bothered to actually show his work.
Whatever, it’s a learned pattern of behavior. I have doubt he can conquer it and discuss in good faith.
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Awesome. And thanks for the good work.
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