I’ve whether men feel out of control to the extent they were acculturated against feelings and naming emotions generally when they were boys.
In some U.S. communities, male emotions are purged from social spaces using ritualized homophobic violence in particular locations — esp. athletic spaces, like locker rooms and football fields.
Boys socialize as permitted to have only certain emotions in social spaces — like aggression, anger or pride. They also socialize to accept violence as an outcome of emotion and to perpetrate violence according to heteronormative conventions.
As an outcome, aren’t men conditioned to accept disproportionate risks of emotional and physical violence (e.g. in a military context) and to fear their own emotional responses which they expect may lead to violence — either against them or others?
