Blaming the victim? I’m merely explaining the best way to not get yourself or others killed. How do you get a personal value judgement out of that?
It doesn’t matter who starts a conflict, if you take action that brings the extant conflict closer to violence, you are by definition escalating the conflict. If you want to astronomically increase the liklihood of people dying, by all means, pull a gun.
It’s not just possible that an armed robber will flee without violence once given your valuables - it is the single most likely outcome. Even if the odds were only slightly better than 50/50, it’s still the smarter move for coming out of things alive. But in actual fact the odds are far, far better than that - they’re in the very highest percentiles.
But maybe you’re confident that you can handle any punk in the world with your trusty big iron. Maybe you’re willing to gamble with your own life (and you’re clearly willing to take up the mantle of judge, jury, and executioner to condemn a petty criminal to death, but that’s another matter entirely). What happens if there are other people around?
Are you willing to gamble their lives and safety as well? When the overwhelmingly safest choice for everyone involved in or nearby to such a conflict is to surrender your valuables, are you honestly going to endanger other lives just to protect your petty property?
I can respect wanting to protect yourself. But taking a situation from bad to worse is not the way to do it. Once bullets start flying, chaos reigns and people are quite often going to die.
If you happen to have a gun once things go to hell, at that point there’s no reason not to use it. Once the fight actually breaks out, sure, feel free to do whatever you can to finish it - but only a goddamn fool would choose to start the fight when they could have avoided it entirely. And no, it wasn’t “the other guy” who started it. A fight isn’t a fight until someone throws the first punch.
If you’re the one who provokes that first punch simply because you’re too proud to take the high road and make the right choice, you deserve whatever you get. The problem is that the people around you might not, and it would be your fault for setting things off. If you find yourself sitting on a powderkeg, that fact that someone else put it there doesn’t give you the right to drop a match on it, epsecially when there are other people around to get hurt.