I love these. I want a what cis folks say to transgender folks version.
Two things:
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These videos piss me off because it sticks me, a rainbow-flag-waving straight guy, in the group of bigoted assholes who say things like this.
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You could also make a video entitled âif straight guys said the things gay guys saidâ which would involve a guy saying a bunch of things to a girl in a bar, after each of which the girl gives him a good hearty slap across the face. Gay guys say some FILTHY things. How do I know? I didnât have gay friends take me to the gay bar/club - I went there with straight friends because gay clubs are entirely friendly and safe, they play good music and there is usually a lot of other munted people around. Iâve also gone to gay bars by myself because Iâd prefer the in-your-face banter that goes on there to the drunken aggressive douchebags you regularly find in non-gay bars.
@iamstockier You wonât mind if I open a hetero bar and tell homosexuals they arenât welcome then? Because thatâs what youâre doing Einstein. Anyway youâre doing the âbitchyâ stereotype proud, guy.
historically disadvantaged
Because Iâm going to take historical bigotry into a gay bar? Or is it that you donât want me to see your secret âhandshakeâ?
interlopers in a space thatâs not intended for you.
Iâll be the one who determines where I go and when. Your judgement of the world is merely your own ⌠and a fairly shitty one, I would add.
Hah that was great.
When I wasnât wincing from hearing things Iâve said.
âNo heteroâ. Iâm taking that.
Iâll admit that Iâve made the animal-world comparison, but never as a ham-fisted supposed compliment to a gay dude. Itâs a great retort to godwankers who say homosexuality is ânot natureâs wayâ - plus I personally see humans as just another animal, so in that regard the comparison seems apt. There are hetero animals. There are homo animals. The ânature argumentâ is moot.
Any chance BB could tweak the handling of YouTube videos? On my iPhone, It takes 4 taps on the front page thumbnail to get the video to play, 3 taps of the âplay videoâ link. I know, first-world problem.
If all your hetero privilege jumped off a cliff would you do it too?
Ugh⌠Straight people slumming in gay bars is just the worst. Tacky.
Whatâs wrong with hanging out in gay bars? Iâve done it because their music was the best option in the area.
It may surprise you to learn that, in many areas, the local gay bar is also the only cool bar. In my town, there were two gay bars. The first was a dance club, which had a clientele ratio of maybe two-thirds gay (majority men) and one third âother.â Me and my fellow straights were there every damn weekend, for years. It was the only place in town where we could enjoy the music we loved, and one of very few that didnât come with a risk of violence/harassment. Those of us prone to the sorts of clumsy ingratiation shown in the video clip learned from our mistakes, and were generally welcomed. Iâm sure a few people resented our presence, but not remotely as much as we all resented the occasional invasion of Bros (and their âmake out with girls for shock valueâ ladyfriends).
The other spot was set up as a quieter alternative (majority women). The feeling was that this was a more âprivateâ space, and people tried to honor that. It wasnât âoff limits,â exactly, but it would have been gauche show up without an invite.
I donât see any evidence in @teapotâs comment that would indicate slumming on their part. Unless what you call âslummingâ is what many of us call âa vital part of our life, that helped shape us into decent adults.â
Meh.
Of course gay bars are awesome (well, generally, lol).
@grumblebum hits it on the head⌠I feel itâs just generally gauche. Regardless of how cool you all may be with the gays, youâre still interlopers in a space thatâs not intended for you. Gay bars, especially in not-major urban areas, are havens for people looking for escape. Straight people in them are ultimately hindrances.
Swapping anecdotes⌠I know a gay bar with good music that basically ceased to be gay as people seeking the good music drive out gay clientele. This in a small city, still relatively conservative city where there were two gay bars. Net result: less space for gay people to socialize amongst themselves, which is bad.
Eh gads, man. I mean can you imagine someone saying that in another situation and how inappropriate that is?
Sure, in some situations it would be inappropriate. That doesnât mean itâs inappropriate for every situation.
Here though, I donât think this is an especially controversial position. Itâs not too much to expect that a group of people in a historically disadvantaged minority would like to have spaces to themselves wherein to socialize.
The one guy - the non-talking guy - looks like Paul Westerberg to me.
as a straight-ish female who works in a male centric job, i understand your problem. or issue. itâs hard to deal with that kind of shit sometimes!
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