I would rather that people actually debate matters that they think are important. Debate is community, everything else is cliquey BS.
There are other options than those two.
Anger is real, anger is important to getting real change done, and Iâm absolutely not opposed to that anger being expressed. But sarcasm is tremendously destructive, and bad behaviour gives the other side cover to behave badly.
One person wrote that. One. She was also a bit off her nut, shot Andy Warhol, and did not identify as a feminist, and in fact rejected any and all attempts to be lumped/co-opted into the category⌠FYI.
Sure, the first option is always engagement and dialogue. Weâre not lacking for Devilâs Advocates around these parts.
[edited to add]Oh really Mr. Baratheon! Please, do tell!
Some of us cannot read facial expressions with anything vaguely resembling accuracy/reliability.
Could you caption those images, please?
Sure! Sorry about that! Also, itâs additionally funny because his avatar is Robert Baratheon from Game of Thrones, and the gif I posted is of Cersei, his wife who basically arranges to have him killed by boar (I donât know if you like A song of ice and fire or the show).
Also everywhere else the Irish diaspora was forced to migrate to. Which is ironic, because in England we got âNo dogs, No blacks, No Irishâ and were kept down, but in the colonies had to suck up to the oppressor to succeed and succeeded there by helping oppress indigenous people. Doesnât poverty suck.
(Not suggesting that the Irish are oppressed in the UK now âother than a bit of anti-ginger biasâ but my fatherâs generation bought it).
Sure. Iâm here in part because my family migrated during the lesser famine, but that side of my family retains a strong sense of an Irish identity. But given the instability of racial constructions, what does that even mean now - itâs a cultural designation, more than anything. The Irish in America carved out a space of power, in part through the political machines starting in the 1850s and 1860s (Tammany Hall and all that) and broke that connection with a certain racial classification in a meaningful way - given the continued occupation of Ireland by the British until the 1920s, that wasnât possible at the same time. By coding the Irish non-white, it provided a space for the British to legitimize their political claims on Ireland.
O! I just thought it was an inevitable coincidence from drinking and hunting. Hunh.
Nobody likes a Godwinner, so I shanât Godwin Eenut thread.
Letâs say you find yourself conversing with Heinrich Himmler; youâre not going to change him, heâs not going to listen to you. So just have some bloody fun.
Well, kind of. She was smart enough to know that it was a possibility, at least thatâs what I got. I think the book makes it a bit clearer than the show did. I think thatâs the advantage of the book, that each chapter is told from one personâs perspective so you get a stronger sense of what they are thinking⌠less of that in the show, because itâs harder to do that I think.
I can appreciate that. But I have a tiny bit more begrudging respect for people who do things I find abhorrent for their own well-thought-out reasons, rather than those who do something I prefer out of peer pressure. At least they have a position on things! Tribal echo chambers do not encourage as much questioning and introspection.
And no, a begrudging respect at this level does not at all amount to sympathy - Iâd still consider Himmler very much an adversary.
You know, inverting cause and effect is a great way to win arguments.
In your own mind.
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I have a tiny bit more begrudging respect for people who do things I find abhorrent for their own well-thought-out reasons, rather than those who do something I prefer out of peer pressure. At least they have a position on things! [/quote]
You think people give each other high fives (or whatever) around here out of peer pressure? Sheesh, this isnât high school, and I donât think anyone that I like to commune with here is still in high school. You clearly see âa sense of communityâ thatâs attainable for many here differently from how I do (and btw, itâs not just one community â bbs is large, it contains multitudes! including multiple, sometimes rather vaguely discernible communities).
Tribal echo chambers do not encourage as much questioning and introspection.
I can of course see the value of questioning and introspection in many conversations. However, when confronted with people who clearly exist at the level of Obstinate Bonehead, and who, worse yet, are clearly acting that way at least in part because of who and what they think I am â when confronted with people like that, I see no reason to even try to âencourage questioning and introspection.â It just ainât gonna happen, on either side.
Citation very much needed.
From this study:
White men are the most likely to be employed:
Christian men are the most likely to be employed:
Every other racial and gender group experiences a pay gap relative to white men, except for Indian and Chinese men, and their âadvantageâ is statistically insignificant.
So while I can appreciate that your subjective experience might have been that you had it âworstâ relative to women and other racial groups (except you keep acknowledging that Black/Caribbean men might have it even worse!), the statistics donât bear that out. You had it bad, it sounds like, but there are a lot of ways in which it could have been even harder.
Note the stats are grouped by ethnicity, not by socioeconomic status (which was the added variable in the original argument you are countering). If broken down by that, in addition to ethnicity/gender, a different pattern may appear.
We need some sort of fine-grained data and some nice visualization system that would allow doing queries and showing results as images easier to interpret at-a-glance than a bargraph, or - worse - a table with numbers.
I donât recall saying anything about high schoolâŚ
It seems to me from talking with people here that peoples socialization into oppressive power relationships isnât a controversial idea. Just like how most people assume that they know what their local laws are without having read them. Do they learn these things by hanging around with politicians and CEOs? Probably not, they seem to internalize these things by way of their peers. I guess the term has a very specific connotation to you which I didnât intend.
Presumption can go both ways. I find that it helps to not be so judgemental of people. Much of the confusion and strife I encounter seems to have roots in contradictory perceptions and goals. So I like to point out those contradictions by not showing them that their professed goals are wrong, but rather that their direction of travel is not taking them to what they state as their destination.
Well, Iâve seen it happen. (Itâs not the only cause, certainly.) As the article I linked to before pointed out, people who donât feel like theyâre being heard turn ever-more extreme. They go to safe spaces where they can vent, and then Anil Dashâs fourth law takes over.