I wouldn’t say that. I think that punching a guy on the arm to show that you’re friends is a small example of toxic masculinity: you can’t show real affection, so instead there’s a playful punch to show intimacy without actual intimacy. Men in our society are held back from being fully human in so many ways because of social conditioning like this. If anything, trans men might be the leaders in bringing men out of this toxic mindset.
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I’m at a loss- I don’t know what to say about this. Apparently, in most states, becoming voluntarily intoxicated is legally identical to consenting to what happens during that intoxication. Never mind that there are laws which say an identical state of intoxication, if involuntary, makes consent impossible.
Alexandra Zeitz-Moskin, a spokeswoman for the New York City Alliance Against Sexual Assault, said the current definition of mental incapacitation underscores the societal assumption that someone who is drinking takes on a certain degree of risk. Changing the law, she predicted, will be difficult.
“I think it will be a really challenging feat, actually, and the reason that it’s been so pervasive in a lot of states is that there is a cultural perception that if someone has been drinking, that in some ways they are consenting,” Zeitz-Moskin said.
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Pretty sure if you’re drunk and get murdered that the state wouldn’t view you as having consented to being murdered.
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The mother I had at the time needed her husband’s signature to get a phone line for business reasons installed at home (paid for by her business, not a personal account).
And well into the 1990’s in Illinois at least, no matter your age, if a woman was single the legal term used on any loan forms was “spinster” (it was “bachelor” for single men).
So much of what we now take for granted is at most decades-old.
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I had second thoughts. I was going to correct it to read "you should structure your life so that you will never meet this man again.’ Toxic masculinity is right, with a clueless contempt for others. Godawful.
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The 100th anniversary of the ratification of the 19th Amendment is next August. I am already anticipating a deluge of hate and associated attempts at “both sides have valid points” obfuscation. Or maybe it will just be ignored, swept under the rug, don’t draw attention to this kind of “female thing”. Or maybe I’m too pessimistic - I do live in the Deep South - and there’s sanity elsewhere … Nah, it’s Crazytime all over.
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Don’t get me started on the crap I see and hear on a daily basis in Tijuana.
ETA: To clarify, fragile male ego “machismo” is still strong here, and words like “maricon”, the equivalent of the homosexual slur f-word, is heard in songs on regular rotation on local radio stations. This only scratches the surface.
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My take is that this is a perfect opportunity to help cure ignorance by providing a role model. Use the word “sportsmanship”; although it’s gender-specific, it’s also freighted with centuries of use for upright behavior, and include the concept that there is no gender, race, or religion in team, there are only teammates.
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Yeah, I grew up then. (And then went to work in “men’s jobs.” I should write a book about the toxic masculinity of the 80s.)
The good old days really weren’t.
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I heard this author speak earlier this year about her book. I was struck by how it was a state-by-state vote-by-vote grind to get the amendment passed, and that the clinching state was Kentucky:
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Apple programs Siri to not bother its pretty little head with questions about feminism
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Crazy Rich Asians Co-Writer Left Sequel After Learning White Male Colleague Earned Around 10 Times Her Salary
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No - you’re not entitled to a slot on the television. Go sell aluminum siding or something.
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