Good luck with the time y’all have left together!
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I moved to BC last week, into a nice new build apartment run by a real-estate investment trust with what seemed like decent management. I’m very happy with the place.
I am NOT happy with their management. The resident manager told me I’d need to pay rent manually and the automatic payments I set up would start May 1st. So I paid. 3 days later, automatic payment comes out, and puts me in overdraft. Ok, I move some money around and cover it, stuff happens at the start of a tenancy, manager assures me they’re looking into it and I should get a refund.
That was the 3rd. Today, I get an email titled ‘first prompt’ telling me I need to pay my rent by the 1st, and I can set up automatic payments, as if I haven’t paid. WTAF?! I’ve given you over $4k this month you bastards! I’m so freaking mad I just want to scream!
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Thanks.
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Welcome to BC. Renting here is a pain in the ass. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Hopefully it gets sorted out soon.
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You still have the receipts from your payments, yeah?
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Thanks. Overall I’m liking it a lot more than Saskatchewan, just this one little issue raising the stress level. I posted that just after getting the email, in full vent mode. 
I do. The resident manager is now looking into things and I hope it’ll get sorted out soon.
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My brother-in-law lives in Saskatoon. I’m always grateful for being BC whenever hear the weather report there. It gets hot here, but nowhere near as cold.
It’s a wonderful province once you work out the kinks. I’ve been here 12 years now and absolutely love it 
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I moved from Saskatoon! Been there most of my life, but always wanted to move here. My ex didn’t want to move though, so I stayed there for her. Now that’s over and with my career sort of dead-ending there, I figured now was the time. And totally agree on the weather, it was -18 when we were packing the U-Haul, 13 when we unloaded. I will miss the summer thunderstorm season, though.
I’m really liking it here so far, though I have so much to sort out over the next little bit. My biggest concern right now is healthcare, I only have a couple weeks worth of hormones so I need to get that sorted out ASAP.
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I was thinking about starting a “Rant and Rave” thread, and then remembered this is here.
This was roughly the conversation over our first meal, yesterday, with the fairly opinionated parents of our youngest son’s girlfriend. At their house. We had been talking about some things related to Mom being the first woman in the jobs she had. They described themselves as liberal, but in the way we’ve heard centrists and center-right people do sometimes when they aren’t actually very liberal.
GF’s Mom (in a voice that sounds like she’s been gravely insulted) segues to: And so apparently I’m a terf!! Me!?! I’m a hardcore feminist!!
Me, frozen, thinking internally: Oh shit, and things had been fairly pleasant up until now. Well, at least the wine was decent.
GF’s Mom and Dad start going on about transgender folk participating in sports, of course.
Me, interrupting: "It’s not really about sports, to be honest. People aren’t thinking ‘how can I win at sports’ and then deciding to play at being another gender.” [Also me: Kicking my wife under the table and giving her our secret signal for “time to GTFO, now”]
GF’s Mom and Dad, continuing: blah blah blah, I just don’t understand, blah blah blah, sports.
Ms Pane, the Social Worker: “You know, it’s OK not to understand. It’s up to you to think about acceptance, and empathy. And try to put sports out of your head for a minute. I see kids every week who are just trying to survive, trying to figure out what’s going on with themselves, not understanding. Imagine being trapped in a place you know you’re not supposed to be . . . .” and then 15 minutes of trying to walk them towards a sliver of light. Uselessly, of course.
Them: “But sports.”
Me: watching Ms Pane doing an earnest job of it, all therapy Kung Fu style. But really also me just silent for the next 15 minutes, because I have zero patience for this BS and I’ll just be angry. Also thinking “I’m gonna pound my way through their expensive wine, quickly, cause we’ll never be back. And I’m gonna owe Ms pane a big back rub for this effort.”
FFS. Why bring this up out of the blue? I told them we’re pretty far left. A billion things to converse about, and this is what you settle on the first time we have a meal together? Then the GF comes out to the car, practically in tears, apologetic about her parents, who aren’t her fault.
Anyway We’re fine. I hope the GF is.
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“I am a big proponent of fairness in athletics. Did you sign the petition to prevent De La Salle/Jesuit/Covenant Christian/Catholic Central from participating in inter scholastic sports? That seems like the first thing we need to do to keep things fair. Jesuit has won the state championship the last 5 years!”
Sorry you had to deal with that. I can’t think of the last dinner I’ve had that awkward.
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Sorry you had to go through that.
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They may have picked up on something you and Ms Pane said, you never know, even if they didn’t show it. Most people will stay on the track they’re on and won’t suddenly change before your eyes, but they may later on think about some of the points that you brought up.
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Is this the same son as in the “not my girlfriend” cupcake-making last month?
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Thanks. Same kid, yeah.
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Assholes gonna asshole. Sorry, fella.
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The greatest trick the devil ever played was convincing “centrists” that “sports” is an issue that affects them somehow.
On the plus side, it sounds like the whole Pane Family is setting a positive example for everyone you encounter. Keep on being awesome!
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Maybe they expected you to agree and back them up?
Either way… that really sucks. I’m sorry.
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Thinking on this, as uncomfortable as it undoubtedly was, it is a good thing they showed their hand so early, much worse to make a friend and then realise their mask has slipped.
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Absolutely. Get it out of the way and move on.
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Gawd, that sounds horribly awkward. “Pane-ful” even? (Couldn’t help myself.)
I know people who talk like this are mainly ignorant, but I can’t help thinking of the very obvious thing that, even if you didn’t know any of the science around gender identity, and that it’s not a choice…here they are thinking it IS a choice, and that people are choosing to put themselves in a position of marginalisation and oppression and sometimes deadly harassment? Because, highschool sports? I mean, can you even imagine? ugh.
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Exactly. It also signals that they almost certainly don’t know (and/or aren’t close with) anyone who has transitioned. It’s not my lived experience, and I know that Mutants here are living it so I don’t mean to 'splain. But I think about friends of ours who have transitioned who have been treated as lepers (and worse) by their family, friends, and colleagues. Winning a medal in a track meet wouldn’t be worth it.
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