E. Jean Carroll accuses Donald Trump of sexually assaulting her in the mid-1990s

In his sleep. That would be… troublesome.

Because that is the direct path to asking when should you not take her seriously. An hour? A day? A week? When could she be safely ignored?

Because your statement, as “helpful” and “open” as you think it is, leads only to shame and worse for every single woman who has to deal with similar situations and does nothing to resolve the problem.

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I’m just waiting for a hamberder to lodge itself in his aorta during one of his stupid campaign rallies.

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You want to know why it takes women sometimes years to come forward?

  1. Because trauma is complicated, and we all handle it differently. “Fight, flight or freeze” doesn’t just apply to the moment, it also applies to dealing with what our shocked brains go through afterwards.

  2. We’re encouraged not to. See the story.

  3. Because working through trauma while also trying to navigate the police and court system – which inflicts it’s own trauma while constantly bringing up the initial one – is too much for some to handle. See also: 2, as cops will often gaslight you or discourage you, because rape cases are hard and can’t be easily closed. That’s not even counting the fact that a large number of cops sympathize more with rapists.

  4. Because we don’t want to see our entire lives ripped open and laid bare for the entertainment of fucking strangers. Going through the system will do that bad enough. Throw in it being a celebrity who’s cozy with the tabloids, and it’s a complete clusterfuck.

  5. And because we don’t want to deal with the fucking assholes who feel it’s their business to question how we deal with any of the above. The ones who get offended when told to take their JAQing off elsewhere.

Any further questions?

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created simply to make the President look bad

Yeah, this is the thing. This thing will do it.

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In addition, we also know that even if we do put ourselves through all that, it usually ends up like this:

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But this isn’t just about her. There were other women who did come forward years ago and she could have given weight to those accusations

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Go back and read every single comment between this quote and my last and then think about what you just said.

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I already had. If you have sympathy for one victim of sexual abuse, why don’t you have sympathy for the others? How do you think they feel reading this now?

I think they feel just as fucking bad as they did already. Your misplaced “concern” isn’t helping.

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Completely unsurprised that there are more victims they didn’t know about yet. Because we either already know or learn quickly how it works.

Oh, and nice work piling on more trauma by adding guilt.

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  1. Because there are assholes who feel the need to pile guilt on top of everything else with specious concern about how “others could have used the support”, like it’s some kind of pep rally or something,.
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Best way to document a sexual assault is to permanently maim the assaulter.

I always assumed he’d go like Elvis, in mid-tweet.

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I’m still holding out hope for in jail, surrounded by his family also in jail.

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Not to diagnose her, or to presume I understand what she thinks, but trauma leaves a mark, and makes a lot of people, men and women, unable to function like they’d like to. There is no timeline for healing. Characteristic of PTSD is avoidance. From the APA definition:

  1. Avoiding reminders of the traumatic event may include avoiding people, places, activities, objects and situations that bring on distressing memories. People may try to avoid remembering or thinking about the traumatic event. They may resist talking about what happened or how they feel about it.

Delay in coming forward is not unusual. If you have these questions, you may want to read more on PTSD and trauma in general, rather than asking it of a specific victim.
https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/ptsd/what-is-ptsd

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Fifteen women came forward. But apparently 16 was the magic number that would have given the accusations “weight”?

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Why doesn’t he and mike pence get struck dead by lightning at a rally.

That might actually turn the brain dead evangelical vote away from the republicans for half a minute.

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Being a good ally means we listen to women.

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Oh HELL no. You do not get to blame later victims for the perp and act like that’s some kind of reasonable assessment. Just stuff that nonsense already.

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