This one points out that many of the portraits make you think they must have been lovers - which they may have been, but the physical closeness was normal enough that this wouldn’t have been assumed.
A couple of articles make the point that when the only acceptable physical closeness for heterosexual men becomes a sexual one with women, it stigmatises and isolates men and puts undue pressure on women (in the same way that men can’t provide all of their partner’s needs either, and close female friendships are important). It also exaggerates the importance of finding a partner when this is the only way you can express closeness in a physical (but not sexual) way.
My attic (now my bedroom) has that same shape and paneling – I had to do two or three double-takes before I figured out that the boards are oriented differently and this wasn’t a live-feed taking place just outside my field of view.
Also, yes, shirtlessness is a must in the summertime. If only I looked as good as these guys.
I remember reading something many moons ago which reference a French Merchant traveling to England sometime around the early 18th Century (I think), he was disconcerted by the English habit of greeting everyone, including strangers with a big ol’ kiss in the lips.
Maybe. But I see enough normalized behavior in other societies between men that in the US we’d consider “gay”, that I don’t lean towards that explanation.
These dudes are all staring down seventy… at least, those who survived Vietnam, various cancers and heart conditions, alcoholism, car wrecks, and other misadventures of the past 45 years. Wonder if any of 'em are still around? Wouldn’t it be great if one or more of them happened to see this movie now, for the first time in decades?
I’m glad they’re having fun, but man… as a teetotaller, I’d be seriously jonesing for an Xbox, a drumkit, maybe a dartboard or a pool table… anything.
Yeah - look at South Korea. A fairly conservative country with lots of casual male on male contact. There’s nothing “gay” about it - it’s just a way of expressing friendship.
There’s a great line from a Cracked article touching (no pun intended) on this phenomenon.
Is this where I confess that of my crushes right now, someone I fancy, in part, very much because he/his friends run in to hug/pile on and have a laugh. Maybe he’s gay? or just relaxed and fun? welp, it’s hot either way.