Thanks. I missed him a long time (and still do), but I remembered thinking on my 34th birthday that I was a little over one month shy of living more than half my life without him. And I became closer to my mom as a result (I was such a daddy’s girl ), which made her death harder than I imagined.
Also 68 gets younger and younger. I lost a good friend to cancer at 47. Really the best of guys, it is impossible to think ill of him and it wasn’t just cuz he has passed. Meanwhile we all know total jerks who skate through just fine. So sorry for your loss. I hope it draws his loved ones closer. And Fuck Cancer.
Aside from the basic awful situation–for all we know, he may decline a lot before I can even manage to get there–it also means a transatlantic + transcontinental journey, plus the hugely-disruptive-to-my-productivity working from a relative’s kitchen table for about a week or paying a high price for a coworking space.
More internet hugs your way. My aunt died of pancreatic cancer at around the same age. I never knew her through most of my life and we had finally connected just a few years before her diagnosis. It’s an extra shitty cancer because it so damn efficient.