One of my friends lost her long term boyfriend (and father of her two kids) to a heart attack two or three years ago. She’s been with someone else for about a year and a half, and things were going pretty well - the kids started calling him dad earlier this year etc. Last week he had some discomfort in his throat and went to the doctor. It’s stage 4 oesophogeal cancer, and it’s spread to his other organs. She’s only 31 and her boyfriend’s in his late 20s - I don’t know if he even smokes.