The difficulty of changing behavior in a meeting is that research has shown that teachers (yes, even female teachers) inculcate this behavior from a very early age. Boys and girls have grown up with this phenomenon, so calling a colleague out on it at the age of 30 or 40 isn’t going to fix the situation and in fact will just make the whistleblower look like a jerk/non-team-player.
It’s like that old story about a group of people who see a baby floating down a river, so someone goes in to save it. Then a couple more float by, and more people run in to save them. This keeps happening until some guy starts walking “away”, up the riverbank. Everyone calls him back to help, but he says that he’s going to figure out where and why all the babies are ending up in the river.
