It is not a direct quote. You are seriously twisting my words and I explained why, and you ignored my points again and still haven’t really answered any of the points I brought up in response.
Being handed a list of rules can rub people the wrong way,
The fact that you consider this a list of "rules’ rather than information is pretty telling, though. And who gives a fuck i it rubs some bigots the wrong way??
And you’re right, it’s not about me. I already know all this stuff.
Ah, yes. I suppose we should just shut up and listen to the straight, white, cis male because he totally understands this subject, because he says so. He says so so it must be true.
Oh my god no. Stop. Stop digging that hole.
I’m not interested in ginning up creaky justifications to offend and disrespect marginalized people, I’m not trying to preserve my right to call people “transvestites,”
You know, I never said that’s what you were doing. But here you are. Reassuring me that you are a totally swell, awesome straight white male ally who would never use inappropriate language or terms. Why did you even need to SAY that? Why do you feel the need to reassure me? This isn’t about you, and yet here you are – making it about you and how awesome you are and how much you understand.
I’m telling you what it sounds like from over here and what it sounds like is counterproductive. If you don’t care what Straight Cis Man has to say then feel free to ignore me. Not everything warrants a response.
And just because you have an opinion, it does not mean you need to fucking repeat it, literally telling those in marginalized groups how YOU, a straight white man, thinks they should handle things in their own communities. And if you DO voice your opinion about a marginalized group, it would be helpful to actually LISTEN to those people rather than brushing them off.
But I suppose since you’re TELLING me, then I should listen, because a white, cis man has spoken.
You know, the whole fucking POINT is that cis, straight, white men have had the god damned center stage since forever. Maybe you should step back and let everyone else have a fucking say for one moment.