In-laws toy with woman's food allergy in horrifying letter to agony aunt

I think the mushroom story and the diarrhea stories are from two different unrelated people. The top story is about the girl with the mushroom allergy, the second story is from someone else, however the below link seems unrelated to either story:

and this link contains the start of the poisoning story, but not the conclusion…

So, I am a bit confused but i think they are two different stories…Either way, like was said above, get the fuck out of that family.

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Poisoning her with something other than mushrooms seems dumb, but it’s amazing what people get away with sometimes.

http://community.seattletimes.nwsource.com/archive/?date=19910823&slug=1301446

The daughter and granddaughter gave separate statements to police telling how they had chopped up 50 capsules of Dilantin, an anti-seizure medicine, then mixed it in clam chowder and fed it to Van Sickle Nov. 17 in the family home in Rainier Valley.

But when she was still alive the next day, they put a pillow over her face and suffocated her. After a 20-minute struggle, Van Sickle died.

A medical examiner concluded she died of congestive heart failure, and her body was donated to the University of Washington.

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It doesn’t necessarily have to be a diuretic, it could’ve been something unsanitary as well. Not that either one changes the fact that it was a poison attempt. If i were a braver person i would plainly bring out some food containers, put the food in it and proclaim that the food will be tested and that they’d be hearing from the police and a lawyer, and then leave.Then again i don’t have the guts to do that, but i do like the thought of storming out like that like a bad ass.

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Heh. And that’s when you find out that the whole family is in on it, and that you’re not leaving.

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Ah, I think you’re correct. The husband who’s family tried to poison his wife with her mushroom allergy appears to have stood by his wife.

My husband supports me 100 percent, and he is very angry and hurt by their actions.

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As Rob said in the article, that was a different story that was similar to the first story. That one wasn’t about a mushroom allergy, but the MiL poisoning the DiL.

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Well, intentionally dosing a potentially fatal food allergy is still poisoning, so they’re both about poisoning. But I was confused about them being two separate stories. My mistake.

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Like the sot and the chaser, they are 2 different things, but synergistic.

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I also missed that they were in separate columns and thought it was a single ongoing saga.

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I did not even see that line at the end!!! Reading is fundamental! :crazy_face:

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The shot and chaser links are swapped.
@beschizza

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Yeah I read through them all.
The first one her beau/husband told his parents ‘well bye’ when the parents were being dicks about always serving mushrooms. The wife still feels bad cause kids don’t visit grandma and grandpa but really they are better off.

The second is in 2 parts and the links are out of order and the spouse indeed has DTMFA.

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Diuritics make you pee, see that URI in there.

Laxatives make you poop. But laxatives can be quite dangerous and all sorts of other dangerous things have laxative effects. And generally your body is gonna try and purge anything irritating that you ate though truly impressive shitting or vomiting.

No telling what it was.

Unfortunately unless some one owns up its unlikely you could even establish poisoning clearly enough to charge. Once its revealed and no longer happening, its unlikely you could get a sample and its probably not something that’s still in the victims system. So there’s a standard of proof issue.

Eta: also the letter is from 2012. So whatever the fuck happened its likely long resolved.

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Advice columns routinely provide a convincing case for dying alone and childless.

I don’t suppose it’s reasonable to consider the possibility that some of these letters are made up?

See also Ortberg’s earlier work:
http://the-toast.net/2015/10/01/signs-youre-about-to-write-a-dear-prudence-letter/

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Time for New Husband, and a some running shoes to get away from those psychos.

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Yeah.

Advice columns don’t really have a ton of ability to prove one way or another that a letter is 100% real. And many advice columnists have pointed that fakes are frequent and discussed how they judge.

In particular the Dear Prudie column under Emily Yoffe was regularly called out for printing obvious fakes, the quality of the advice offered, and some not exactly open minded assumptions about social and gender issues. Especially by Dan Savage who would occasionally devote whole columns to it.

Other advise columnists repeatedly called her out for the fakes and offered proof in the form of identical letters they had received at the same times, with key details not matching. Multiple impossibly from the same person claims from the same signatory. Or identical claims from multiple supposed writers they’d received repeatedly across years from the same source. Often with the details slightly updated to have plausibly happened just now. Newspaper becomes internet etc.

Particularly when it comes to sex and relationship columns people just seem to want to get their fantasy in print.

So any given question is a “could potentially be fake” thing. But anything from the older Prudie columns is grain of salt territory. The reality of any given request isn’t really the point. Good story and a jumping off point for advise is, but you start from something inacurate or divorced from reality and you kinda lose the second one. You answer a question about how gay sex makes you a werewolf as if that’s a serious possibility and you lost the thread.

Eta: its also apparently plenty common to knowingly publish suspected or known fabrications. Provided they present a plausible and common enough issue for readers to potentially need or enjoy information on.

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That mother in law could be facing up to 2 months of probation if this goes to trial.

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The evergreen value of advice columns is not the prurience, or the dubious advice that unintentionally reveals more about the columnist, or the schoolmarmish moral thunderbolt-hurling.

No, the priceless treasure of this dumb format is the mental picture of Shelley Duvall in The Shining whipping out some scented stationery and a fountain pen from under the bathroom sink to ask what Ann Landers thinks.

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“It’s ridiculous to think they’d make an entire menu to exclude her!”

Bruh no one accidentally makes a meal with almonds in literally every single dish. AFTER she told them she was allergic.

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