Holy Jeebus, talk about oblivious! That guy should not breed.
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I’ve literally used a spreadsheet to make sure everyone at Thanksgiving can eat at least 3 dishes.
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The mushroom story reminded me of a story that circulated on reddit about a grandmother who killed her grandchild with coconut oil because she didn’t really believe in her allergy.
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Yes people who almost die are “enthusiasts” and pains in the ass.
I’ve got a kill you grade allergy (bees), and a separate shit your pants grade food allergy (scallops).
And my brother almost died around 6 times two years back when some lone star tick bites triggered an alpha-gal allergy.
We’re both hoping to collect them all so we can inconvenience you further.
Think about it a little further and you might realize its not you who’s being put out here.
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As I recall, that one (about some kind of hair product) is fictional.
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No biggie. Just making sure everyone was clear.
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Thank you.
I was about to say that I have an onion allergy, and I am not at all enthusiastic about it. However, I am an enthusiast of not getting stomach cramps, projectile D&V and having burps that smell like a backed up sewer (and if you can smell them then I can taste them). It doesn’t jut ruin my day, it ruins the day of everyone else, then I go away to suffer for the rest of the week.
“Allergy enthusiasts” is victim blaming.
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Wow. Whenever I make dinner that will be enjoyed by someone else, I definitely take any food aversions (whether medical, religious, health, or otherwise) into consideration. As someone with a mushroom and shellfish allergy, I totally understand. If I went over to someone’s house, and every meal was shrimp and/or shroom surprise, with a healthy side of passive aggression, I’d stop eating there, even if it was my own parents. Your right to not be offended is less important to me than my right to not die from your cooking.
I’m surprised that it required an advice columnist to handle this. I suppose, though, you don’t realize that when you’re asking, “How can I spare the feelings of someone who is trying to kill me?” you’re asking the wrong question.
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That would make for a good web site. Like Doodle, but for allergies. People put in what they’re allergic to and then attach the recipes to the invitation for people to confirm that they didn’t forget anything.
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If you read the full column the person was asking about how to get over her irrational guilt about the rift this behavior opened between the husband and his family. And that sort of guilt is a common response to people who have been (frankly) abused. Less explicitly the writer seemed to seeking some way to validate herself by proving it to the inlaws, which would also be a common response.
Seems they’ve already cut the family out over this, and the husband is 100% in her camp. Also sounds like its been going on for years.
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Based on what I’m reading it sounds like they are announcing the presence of the mushrooms, so they aren’t trying to kill anyone. They are just putting that person in danger to make a point. I agree they don’t sound like sociopathic poisoners who want to watch someone die, instead they seem like entitled assholes who don’t think their bad actions could ever have bad consequences.
I’m sure the world has seen many instance of people choosing to die rather than the make a fuss or look foolish.
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It’s utterly disrespectful to taunt people for food intolerance. Honestly even if someone simply doesn’t like the taste of something it’s not for me to impose my tastes on others.
The next level is the disturbing and warped behavior of betraying a person’s trust and secretly introducing contaminates to a person’s food. What are they trying to accomplish other than a way to assault another person without getting in trouble. It’s as antisocial as slapping a person in a face, and people need to be ostracized for the violence they commit.
Ancient laws of hospitality indicate that you offer your guests the best of what you have. That includes clean dishes and clean nourishing food. Going against this is going against a social code, it violates trust, and is a degradation of society.
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That’s awful in regards to the ticks, has the reaction abated for his or does he still have a reaction to meat?
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Yeah, that’s NOT a thing.
So, someone thinks its ‘odd’ that there are all these people who are now allergic to so many different things in the environment, including common foods?
This is what happens when unchecked greed allows the perpetual pollution of the majority of the planet to go unchecked for decades upon decades, all in the name of profit. It negatively alters the environment itself, and everything that environment produces.
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Yeah, that’s the one upside of guests with restricted diets - it’s usually cheaper! No meat or fancy cheese course for the vegans, the religious don’t expect booze, and allergies are frequently to expensive ingredients - exotic fruits, seafood, and, of course, the mushrooms.
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My parents have a (though seldomly done) habit of making really delicious meals with shellfish and/or shrimp despite knowing that me and my younger brother are allergic. Once at a party they set something out without letting anyone know it had shellfish in it, i asked everyone in the party and no one knew if i could eat it so i decided to be safe and pass on it (found out later that i made the right choice). Honestly it pisses me off every. single. time. Even if they make the dish containing shellfish as a separate thing i find it upsetting because i end up getting something in lesser quality to eat while they take the time and effort to make something extra delicious that happens to have shrimp.
With that said i do have a great relationship with my parents, i would say that’s a big gripe i have against them but me living in a different city this happens very rarely but when it does i try my best to be polite despite my obvious annoyance.
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Maybe, but there are just too many stories about people „challenging“ others about their allergies. Or even food preferences. in their mind, there is no difference to smuggle meat into a vegetarians diet, pork into a muslims dish, and so on. Waiters who claim that there is no such thing as a tomato allergy.
I readily admit it is not my field of expertise, but I had the impression there is some consensus that the increased prevalence of allergies is tied to the success of modern sanitation techniques. In that sense, people are allergic to more things because they aren’t getting sick from other things like they used to.
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I’m reminded of this episode of King of Queens (03x21 - Departure Time, timestamped for your convenience):
https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x5sqcf0?start=832
“So, you’d rather die instead of having an awkward conversation with mom.”
This is often quoted around my house every time we find we’re endangering ourselves for the sake of someone else’s feelings.
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That ties into it as well, I’m sure.
For instance, antibacterials only work until the bacterium evolve and develop a resistance.
But we are also actively poisoning our land and water, and that has a detrimental effort on the food we grow and the animals we raise as food.
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