Yeah, it’s a standard procedure, I didn’t see anything in the article that looked really new.
To any trans men who had to survive this comment section (or worse) today: you are loved and your gender is valid. You guys are tough and awesome and our lives are better for you being fully yourselves.
Well, also viagra and hand enlargement surgeries.
I hope his girlfriend isn’t counting on him lasting more than say 1.5 seconds
The first time maybe. But think of the future potential once he gets the hang of using it—how many men can say they have a penis that has been field-tested to last a fortnight?
Well, if I didn’t have the genitals that the person I was dating expected, I think I’d try to really establish a connection before letting it come up. (I’m sure there are some others who might bring it up early, just to get it out of the way, but for a relationship that hasn’t gotten to that level I think bringing up genitals at all would kick in the TMI factor.)
What I wonder is to which is better, no penis, vs. Franken penis. Clearly this individual has had a lot of time to ponder on that, and one hopes that the decision will work for him as an individual, and within the context of his current relationship.
Ford Tough? Mil Spec? IP28?
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I would figure there’d need to be at least a minimal connection after nine months of dating, and it’s probably time to be truly honest. Same for if she wanted the traditional route of no sex before marriage. If he waited until afterward to reveal, I think that wouldn’t be fair at all to her, no matter his condition.
As for no-penis vs. Franken-penis, I would figure perhaps it would be better to at least see what he’s been missing, if it works out. If not, there’s no need to force it.
I can’t imagine dating someone for 9 months and not being told the truth about something so fundamental. I also find it hard to believe that he was lying by omission ‘only’ for that long.
First date or two, fine, but not 9 months.
Well, I have generally followed the three-date rule, and if I make it that far, it’s always fallen into two specific categories - either no kiss yet and I assume there’s no interest, or we wind up in bed if we haven’t already.
And I mean real “let’s hang out together intentionally and specifically just us two” kind of dates where there’s no ambiguity.
For me, I like nothing less than laying all my cards out on the table. Even if I have no penis, I figure nine months has got to show some element stretching the concept of commitment?
I think I would feel the same about a serious/chronic STD.
If I understand you, you’re saying that the woman in this case has proven she is committed to the relationship because she’s stuck it out for 9 months, so now it’s safe to tell her. But after 9 months, she’s over-committed. I know my immediate reaction would be to think I’d been living a lie for 9 months. Imagine if you found out 9 months into a relationship that “oh, by the way, I have stage 4 cancer and will die before the end of the year”. Or, “my father the king has died so I have to go back now to rule my country”. How was that not discussed 8 months earlier, you know? It’s not incumbent on her to prove her loyalty to him. He has to be an equal partner, or else he’s manipulating her to get what he wants.
Oh no, quite the opposite. I agree, one is over-committed, even for a conservative. Previous post edited or clarity…
Now I’m imagining what would have happened with Alonso if he’d sprung that on Laura Ingalls after all those fucking seasons of LHP.
I would think it’s the same deal as being trans or intersex. Get the discussion out of the way upfront, because delaying it will only make it worse.
Yeah, sexually inexperienced for certain. There are still “wait until marriage” sorts out there.
cough this is where I raise my hand sheepishly and say that’s exactly what my husband and I did. We didn’t have sex until our wedding night.
There’s nothing wrong with that. It only becomes a problem when you judge other people for not having the same type of sex life that you have.
I’m close to with you on that one … if the wedding date was moved up, say, 2.5 years.
“Wrong” is a wrong word. It’s better to know what sex is life before you marry a person, even if it’s just and only with that person. A lot of incompatibilities can be rooted out that all the love in the world can’t fix, that way.
Can’t argue with religious decree but it’d certainly do away with a lot of sad, unnecessary divorces.
If I were to do it again, I’d doubt I’d wait until marriage.
I’m sorry you’re not doing it any more.
