Stop telling women to smile


#1

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#2

Cool project. This problem takes other forms, of course, e.g., “Hey, cheer up, it’s a beautiful day!”


#4

It’s another one of those lose/lose situations. Smile, and you’ve just added another microaggression to your own personal camel’s back. Don’t, and get called a bitch.


#5

My default is to look them straight in the eye and tell them my parents died last night. And just keep staring until they leave, apologize or I finally discover I really can set people on fire with my brain, which is a life long dream of mine.

(Edit: My parents haven’t died yet, but I’m pretty sure they’d approve of me using it to shame jerks)


#6

I guess I missed the part where she obtains permission from the property owners to wheatpaste their buildings. Oh, but hey, it’s art!


#7

I guess I missed the part where she obtains permission from the property owners to wheatpaste their buildings. Oh, but hey, it’s art!

http://i.minus.com/iRK1dtm2ZoeKe.gif


#8

A friend of mine was interviewing for a principal position years ago. I asked her how the interview with the Board went and she seethed that the first thing a board member said to her is that she would look nicer if she smiled. What is it with men telling women to smile?


#9

I think a lot of them who do that are at some level afraid. Telling a woman to smile makes her seem less threatening. And at any rate, weaker.


#10

You don’t have to ask them if they mind, just enjoy the privilege of hearing their voice when you call them. Not all of us have that privilege.


#11

I am not making this up or belittling this very true observation. But I do sometimes go up to my guy friends and ask them to Glower. Could that be an unconscious reaction to how creepy it is for strange men to ask for smiles?


#12

France.

Seriously, French women do not smile at you unless they mean to. It freaks out some US visitors - but if you are polite and friendly towards waiters and shop staff and they smile at you, it isn’t an empty gesture.


#13

Hey, cheer up, it’s a beautiful day! :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:


#14

Not sure, though I do think that elevating this tactic to full consciousness and then strategically deploying it (say, right after another clueless man tells a woman to smile) would in turn elevate your status to One of the Good Guys.


#15

Great project. The sketches are incredibly powerful. They radiate this combination of strength and vulnerability.


#16

That’s because they’re portraits of humans not smiling. I think the words detract, but it’s not the side of my building to say.


#17

(I simply aspire to not be One of The Creeps)


#18

Cool beans, at least you’re on the right track.


#19

What is the source for this wonderful gif?


#20

Um, Antarctica?


#21

I actually laughed out loud :smiley: