There are other hazards…
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Damn straight, Riot Nrrrd to the bone!
Mine own autobiography would be coming along more briskly if I didn’t wear wrist weights whilst I type.
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I’m picturing a scenario where the soon-to-be-ex boyfriend [assuming this works*] also reads the articles, and it becomes some sort of scorched earth PUA endless war…
* and why wouldn’t it, right?!!!
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If you think you hear the cat chit-chatting with the dog, you should be worried.
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I don’t know … they pretend not to get along, but I think they are plotting something.
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How refreshingly honest and awesome such an environment would be.
Yep, same here.
But on the other end of the spectrum, I’ve also had a few compliments that were just appreciative, and nothing more.
Even further (and rarer), I’ve had the right person give me a compliment, and I’ve responded in a flirtatious manner, which led to solicited romantic advances.
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That’s one of the reasons for “camp drop” - you have to pack away a lot of the open and honest communication that normal society restricts. Even saying “no thank you” isn’t taken with the same reaction you might get in the standard world. I actually had some health issues during our camp this year and had to say no both to some people on site and to one whom I’d arranged some play time. In each case, I got a variation of “Oh no, sorry to hear you’re not feeling well. Maybe some other time, then?” and some socialization.
Even when presenting male, I will offer compliments in as non-creepy a way as possible, when I am fairly certain they will be received as I intended them. (I complimented a person in the grocery store the other night on her Portal related t-shirt and noted that I have the exact same one! Then again, my partner and I have said hello to her and her partner as they are also obviously both geeks and we see them there quite often.)
That is also an excellent situation on both sides! (I can say that compliments of that nature have led to some of my romantic relationships, but in each of the cases I can think of, the time between compliment and actually dating the respective people was on the order of months to years. I’m not exactly worried about being referred to as a PUA!)
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I can literally think of only one time it’s acceptable to talk to someone wearing headphones, and that’s when you need to scooch past them to get to the bathroom on an airplane.
Also, my best friend has the best automatic response when someone tries to talk to her while she’s wearing headphones: “I’m sorry, I couldn’t hear you, I have a knife.”
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Or indeed, your therapist would not spontaneously agree to this exchange if she were walking down the street listening to music.
I really can’t see an edge case where this would apply. If you had a female friend who was happy to see you and would be willing to talk to you about your depression, wouldn’t she take out her headphones by herself when you approached, without you having to ask? If you did want to talk about it with a trusted friend, couldn’t you text her first and find an appropriate time and place other than randomly in the street?
These scenarios just underline the fact that it’s got nothing to do with depression or polite conversation at all.
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I’d say less any of those things and more a pathetic attempt to make people who care about other people feel bad because the person tweeting views people who care about other people as their enemies. “Hey, I thought you SJWs cared about people with disabilities! Like depressed people who try to overcome their depression by talking to random strangers - specifically to ones who don’t appear to want to be talked to. And also schizophrenic unicorns.”
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Okay, I seriously adore you for posting that vid; I had forgotten all about that song, but it’s perfectly apt.
##"Geek, geek! Woop, woop!
##Why you all my ear, talking a whole buncha shit that I ain’t tryna hear?
##Get back, get back! You don’t know me like that."
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Ladies, Ludacris knows your pain!
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He even showed the ‘big girls’ some love with that one…
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Yeah, I wouldn’t doubt it; and I can think of two types to go to something like this thinking it’s a way to find relationships. One is the love addicted, the other is people who have been emotionally neglected and haven’t learned to interract with other people.
The thing that I think makes all this really harmful is the PUA scene preys on young men who are insecure, need a bit of therapy and a few friends and instead promises them magic fixes by being assholes. It doesn’t help that we have the really fucking idiotic trope of “the bad boy gets the girl”, further promoting the thought that this bullshit and being a douche to women is a way to go.
I am so glad I never fell down this path in my youth, but there was a real chance I could have in my more vulnerable days.
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That ending punchline…
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Jesus, that’s flat out preying on the love addicted. I cannot find the words on how horrible this person is.
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YOU GUYS
Read this. It’s beautiful.
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Well, he’s anti-Bill O’Reilly, so it stands to reason…
That was fucking EPIC.
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“between the Scylla of the Woman Who Has Put Her Bag Next To Her On A Bar Stool and the Charybdis of the Woman Who Is Just Jogging.” I want to marry the author.
Edit: The Facebook friend who showed me that article apparently got a comment along the lines of “women are ruthless, why don’t you all just go into the woods if you want to be alone.”
Yes. We ARE ruthless. So maybe stop harassing us.
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