My partner and I divide the chores pretty much evenly. We both have jobs that require a fair bit of travel, so who ever’s home does the chores, or we split them when we’re both here. It’s slightly difficult for me because I’m even more of a neat freak than she is and it’s a challenge for me to let entropy creep in here and there. That said, she alone makes the bed. This is not because I believe it’s a woman’s job. It’s because I believe it’s a job one does when one it ready to get into the bed for a good night’s sleep. If Jibbers intended the bed to be made in the morning, He would have given me the energy to do it before my coffee.
The cats and dog are the only ones who go in the bedroom during the day, and they don’t care if the bed is made (I asked them and they answered with utter indifference). It gets messed up every night anyway. Bed making is positively Sisyphean! When we first moved in together, my bed-making apathy drove her nuts. But I just did a bit more vacuuming and laundry and cooking, and eventually she got over it. I guess it looks nice and neat in there all day when no one is looking at it ¯\ (°_°)/¯
This is a dangerous way to frame things, though. It implies that there’s an exchange going on, a quid-pro-quo. I learn to say and do the right things, and in exchange someone (women?) awards me the title. It accepts as given that I have an adversarial relationship towards women, and then tries to negotiate around it based on granting or withholding social currency.
This is what the SNL skit was depicting - men who seem to have feminist values, but in fact are only going through the motions in order to gain the reputation associated with the title.
I really agree with the sentiment of “show, don’t tell”. But part of the struggle against sexism is having people (especially men) willing to clearly speak against it. In my opinion, openly expressing beliefs like feminism is an important action in itself. It doesn’t mean you have to be loud-mouthed and self-important about it, but it does mean you have a responsibility to take sides without worrying about whether people think you’re a poseur.
Wait, isn’t the best place to store fitted sheets actually on a mattress?
So if you store the spare ones (assuming you got spare ones) fitted to the bed, but on the underside of the mattress, then come laundry day just take the top one off, flip the mattress and you’re good to go.
Yes, but he wasn’t aware of them until the early 2000s, then realized that they had been there the whole time.
That’s like how I am with Muse. I wasn’t aware of them until they had been popular for a good 15 years, and then realized that they were just kinda always there… like they had been retconned in.
I am torn on this. You make a good point about how living a good life should take precedence over finding a romantic partner, but pouring oneself into meaningless hobbies as a distraction won’t help either. I’ve been there, sort of. Earlier on in life I dedicated myself to hobbies in an attempt to meet people and relate to them better, but it didn’t work and all I had were a bunch of meaningless commitments that only wasted my time.
Self-improvement is a good focus, but only if it’s honest attempt at self-improvement and not done for others’ sake or as a distraction.
Idealizing romantic relationships is only asking for trouble though. It’s better to connect with real people, even if it isn’t necessarily romantic or sexual, than it is to have this weird idealized (unhealthy) concept of a romantic partner. However, connecting with people is easier said than done, especially if you’re not practiced at it or don’t have the natural inclination.
Self improvement is good and all, but isolation isn’t healthy either. There needs to be a little balance.
In the Reptilians’ defense, Devo was a necessary patch. In the non-Whip It Good timeline, Trump became president in 1981, allied the US with the Soviet Union, and launched a joint nuclear strike on the Middle East, thereby initiating nuclear winter, destroying most of the world’s oil reserves that could have offset it, and skyrocketing Russian and Texas oil profits. Interestingly, Ukraine fared about the same in both timelines.
This is where you lose me. How is engaging in activities you enjoy and which cause you to be around other people who also enjoy that activity translate into the idea that you’re in isolation? Just as you’ve said: as long as you’re doing something because YOU care about it and want to do it, you’re engaged in self-improvement without forcing a romantic/sexual overtone.
The thing is, you have to change your mindset from “must be in a relationship or else I’m a loser” to “must be working on becoming a better person while improving my beach volleyball skills (as a silly example) or else I’m not fully living up to my potential”.
800 to 1000 is preferable. I’ve committed unspeakable crimes against man and nature, but never coarse sheets!!!
