To ‘vanilla’ people, kink is a foreign land on a foreign planet in a foreign galaxy in a foreign supercluster. In short: we don’t get it. We don’t plan on getting it. But we would like to understand it insofar as what it means to those who do, whatever those kinks may be.
While the TMI threshold of this discussion is necessarily higher than that of your average water-cooler talk, the focus of this thread is not kinky acts but rather the intrapersonal, interpersonal, and (neuro)physiological aspects of them. Any descriptions should be subservient to this focus. Yes, that was an SM joke.
If you’re uncertain of whether something is appropriate, don’t post it. Follow your intuition. Failing that, follow the BB community guidelines. Especially this part:
Keep it clean. Don’t post anything obscene or sexually explicit.
Got that? We don’t want to hear about the details of your kinky adventures. Dan Savage is still taking calls and letters; share your adventures with him. We’ll enjoy hearing about them on Savage Love(cast). Just not here.
Academic interest in the psychology and neurophysiology of kink—especially SM—manages to get research funding every now and then. I encourage anyone to bring those results into this discussion.