Explain It Like We're Vanilla

Going back to this for an open question.

What would that even look like? Pretty much everything has been done to, by, or on everything else. What would be the sexual boundaries that can and should be pushed?

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That’s question I want the answer to. If I had it, I’d give it :alien:

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Opening it to the floor. I’ve got some thoughts, but need a bit of time to get them ordered and it’d be great to hear others first.

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Ok, but not too strong a mark, cause I have to go in to the office on Monday,

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I kinda like my boundaries, actually.

Your emoji reminds me of something that isn’t outside of them, it’s simply just too damn weird for me to get off on it.

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Damned right.

Maybe should was the wrong word. Ought to be? Need to? Something that implies a greater artificial limit, rather than a personal choice, anyway. Like the way a society fetishes and idealises a particular body-type, rather than something that’s a matter of personal disposition. Can’t find the right way of describing it.

That’s a new one to me. I learned a thing then! Hooray? I think?

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*lolz

(I kinda wish I didn’t know either, but the internet is ‘a double edged sword.’)

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This actually gets to the heart of my personal gripe with kink and BDSM play. People within them seem obessed with “edge” play, pushing the boundaries of the acceptable. Bor-ring. Anyone can one-up the competition. A lot of that devolves to getting kicks by discomfiting other people. Fuck. Than. Shit. (or not, but you get my drift). What I want to see is real and deep contemplative exploration of the art of sexuality. Consider de Sade. Yes, his manuscript (written while imprisoned in the Bastille no less) was about pushing boundaries. But not just the limits of pain and pleasure. He wanted to add a cognitive dimension to sexuality. In this day and age with centuries more of art, science and philosophy to draw upon, we could surely take that same orthogonal ethic and do better.

Hah! Okay, I’m not gonna lie; I kinda find the notion of ET sex sort of intriguing. But mostly I picked that emoji because we didn’t have a really good one available. A better choice would be…well…my avatar icon.

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Perhaps part of your like for your boundaries derives from the process of you discovering/deciding what they are. It can be the work of a lifetime for some people!

I wonder if what people might be getting at here is respecting ones real limits, while not being confined by false limits of complacency or others expectations. I don’t think of my sexuality generally in terms of limits, it’s fun exploration for its own sake, like art or cooking.

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Very educational wander round the maker’s website though. Reminds me of the Bad Dragon stuff.

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I cannot say the same, just based upon the most common perception of extraterrestrials seen in science fiction; but then again interspecies anything is well outside of my aforementioned general parameters.

Plus, I’ve just seen way too much hentai.

Exactly.

¿Que?

:question: :grey_question: :question:

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http://bad-dragon.com/ (NSFW obv). Sex toys designed around fantasy critters. They’ve been reviewed by OJST (Also NSFW) a few times, if you’ve come across heard of them.

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Hmmm…ETs in TV and silver screen SF doesn’t quite seen alien to me. Perhaps the erotica Stanislaw Lem would’ve written if he’d written it would be more along the lines I envision.

Entirely possible I haven’t seen enough hentia (I tend to steer clear of bestiality, which is what most of that seems like to me).

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Bingo.

Not my kink. Lower species animals can’t give consent, and I’m BIG on mutual consent.

I see what you almost did there.

:wink:

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Your score?

Lower than my own most recent percentage, (which wasn’t nearly as low as I had suspected.)

Ditto. Liking this wasn’t enough. Mutual mutual consent is :key2:

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Ah, yes! I have several treasured Bad Dragon toys. I am not into their “fantasy critter” framing, but I appreciate the sculpture and craft involved. I would like to get one of those ovipositors also!

For me, it is not so much a matter of fantasising about dragons or weird beasts. I always wanted great toys where form followed function. The norm for years was crude disembodied human genitals which looked awfully tacky, and showed no imagination. I love that now people are more adventurous with using shapes and materials intended to feel interesting rather than simply mimic people. This also carries over to more utilitarian designs such as Lelo, Tenga, etc.

Definitely worth checking out is Judith Glover’s work at RMIT, and her Future Sex studio, involving actual industrial design courses on sex toy design.

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