Unions FTW. You think I’d work OT if they didn’t pay me?
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IT peeps really need to change their views about that especially desktop and server support… sadly too many libertarian bent sorts in the field.
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No fluoridation here in Honolulu. Great market for dentists.
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I found out today that my mum died. I hadn’t been in touch for a while, because of my depression. I’d listened to the thoughts in my head that told me that I was disappointing her, and I only just realised that those thoughts lied to me. Far too late.
Although I’m a filthy atheist, I wish I was wrong about that, so I could tell her I’m sorry.
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I’m so sorry to hear this.
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Nelsie, I’m so sorry.
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You’ve told us, so you’ve put it out into the cosmos that you wish you had been able to do things differently. That’s enough.
You have a medical condition that affected your ability to spend time with her in recent years. If you were in a wheelchair with no way to transport yourself to where she was, would you feel just as guilty for not going to see her? Depression is no different.
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All of my sympathy from here. Don’t know what else to say really. Those voices are just the fucking worst.
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I’m so sorry to hear this. Hard times, take care.
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I’m sorry for your loss and I hope you feel better soon.
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I’m so sorry. My condolences to you.
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Just to provide a few anecdotal data points… my house uses well water, no fluoride. None of my children have had any cavities in the 20 years the eldest has been alive. They brush carefully with fluoride toothpaste and that seems to be sufficient.
I drank fluoridated water as a child and had a dozen large fillings by the time I was a teenager.
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Except that, as @Nelsie observes, the latter condition tricks you into thinking that you’re the problem and that you’re a terrible person and should feel guilty, you ungrateful, oxygen-sucking waste of life.
I swear, depression is King Arsehole among the mood disorders.
Nelsie, I can’t imagine your pain right now. No words left. *hugs*
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I’m so sorry.
I hope you can be kind to yourself.
I know well what a lying asshole depression is. Depression says a lot of horrible things. One thing it’s never told me is to be kind to myself. It took a friend to tell me that. She tells me that often, and I want to say it to you. Be kind to yourself.
Being horrible to yourself is a trick of depression, I’ve worn a gully walking back and forth on that track, but when the fog lifts, I can see the love in my friend’s words. Be kind to yourself.
It won’t help the pain, I know, but being mean to yourself can make the pain worse. So be kind to yourself, it really is OK to treat yourself with the sort of gentleness you would use with someone else.
Be kind to Nelsie.
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Quoted for emphasis. It’ll trick you into making horrible decisions, make it out like it’s your own fault, then continue to punish you for doing things it suggested in the first place. It’s like an abusive housemate that you can’t avoid or evict.
Cannot emphasis this enough.
And even though it’ll be telling you “Don’t listen to them, WTF do they know.” there’s a few here that have been down similar roads.
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Totally agree with you, which is why I was making a point of saying that it’s a legitimate medical condition, not something to feel guilty or ashamed about. It needs to be said out loud in public often.
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I was frustrated with how I wrote that, because as I read it I was thinking ‘this has a countering tone that totally isn’t what I’m going for’. But my writing brain has been a bit crap this week so I just threw in the pen and clicked ‘Yes, abandon changes’.
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I feel ya.
I’m really trying to hit “Post” more than “Cancel” as it seems to be doing me some good. Or I might just be on an upswing. Either way, leaving this post here to remind me for next time.
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Today, got called a troll and someone who isn’t clever enough to understand corporate, consumer culture. Awesome.
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