Would kindly get started on that?
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This won’t seal enough for a midwestern below-grade basement. Once the carpet is up, clean the cement well with TSP, then roll on a couple of coats of a penetrating hydrophobic sealant like Dry-Lok. After that, you can paint, or tile, or linoleum (real linoleum is beautiful, but expensive), or whatever.
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So what yer saying is we are installing a swimming pool in Abe’s basement, right?
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It is almost unavoidable in a basement in the midwest. You either fortify and decorate it on the assumption that every few years it will get several inches deep in water, or you don’t and suffer the consequences.
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I’ll bring the inner tubes, you are in charge of snacks.
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What, no water beads?
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Do you need the snacks blended?
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Are you and @japhroaig taking one for the rest of humanity, so we don’t have to deal with Thiel any more?
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After spelunking, car died in the middle of nowhere. Heater hose leak. No duck tape and in any case, no antifreeze. My fingers went into the hose like it was putty. Disintegrating. Called AAA. Waiting with greasy hands and disappointment.
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I already ‘liked’ your post, but I feel I owe you another just for ‘duck tape’.
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So last time I posted here I was full of self-congratulations about how well things were finally going with the hanai daughter. Wow, was that a big mistake.
For the last several months things have been getting worse and crazier with the hanai daughter. She is back to nearly as crazy and out of control as she was being at 15, and is now getting physically violent and we are going to have to kick her out tomorrow. That’s the earliest we can get it planned and ready for both of us to be there, to have our son out of the house at one of his friends’ houses, and to have the cops called to come and do a “stand by” while we get the keys from her and she collects some of her stuff. Then we’re going to have to run around changing all the locks.
Since the beginning of June she has been flying into screaming rages more and more often. This morning was the third time she’s escalated into smashing things or trying to bully my wife A_; both previous times I wasn’t around, and last time A_ had to call 911 to get the police there. This time she was screaming into A_'s face until she provoked her into putting her hands out to try to keep her away, and then as soon as she had been touched lunged at her and shoved her backwards over a chair. It seemed very calculated - she clearly thinks from the last time A_ called the cops on her that since A_ “touched” her first then it won’t count as her assaulting A_. (She said as much, almost gloating, after I got her pulled off.)
I put my arm around her neck to pull her back off, and then let her go instead of going into an actual choke hold, and then she accused me of choking her, and flailed at me and knocked my glasses off, but that was so ineffective I didn’t take it seriously. But she continued screaming and posturally threatening and almost escalated it into another physical assault.
Fortunately she didn’t; I was afraid I would hurt her if she tried. I warned her that I would physically throw her out of the house if she touched A_ again; I don’t know whether that was a factor in her exercising some scrap of self-control.
What precipitated this rage? This time it was my having moved the position of a fan in the back room, after I got up this morning.
I don’t know whether there’s more going on with the rages besides her personality disorders. I’ve even wondered if she’s taking some kind of body-building supplement that’s got some steroid analog, but it’s more likely that it’s her family history of mental illness kicking in. Even she seems to recognize the rages as being out of control, but the rages themselves just fit in to her borderline personality and the narcissism too perfectly. During her ranting today, she was spouting some of the classic domestic abuser’s lines: “I had made a plan for you to come to counseling with me next month so we can work this out but now you blew it! … I can’t control my anger, so you need to stop constantly provoking me! … You need to listen to me - don’t say anything, that just provokes me - just listen to what I have to say!”
She can’t stay. There is no reason we should live with this, and we’re not going to.
I feel off-and-on genuinely sorry for her - she had finished her AA degree at community college, and was managing to hold down a job, she was exercising and starting to do some weights, making slow progress on plans to save up money so she could move out to the mainland and start actually living independently, and we had been supporting her in all that. When she was functioning like that, she was on the brink of a positive transition to an independent adult life; now she has snatched defeat from the jaws of victory. That’s part of her pattern of history too.
I think she burned all her ties with her older sister a while back, who was the last of her family that she was still keeping in contact with, and I think she’s also burned through every single friend she had here, apart from whoever is the latest guy she’s been going out with.
We may offer to buy her a ticket to the mainland if she wants to take it, and I hope she does; I know A_ is worried about her retaliating somehow and will feel personally safer if she’s not around here. For myself I am more worried about possibly overreacting and disproportionately injuring her if she were to get violent again. She had no clue that that was dangerous for her; she may have been lifting weights, I’m middle-aged and arthritic, but I have trained how to fight and she never has, and I would have to be very careful not to lose control in response. (But then I guess I judged things pretty well this morning.)
Right now I’m very distanced from my feelings, kind of numbed and floating; I’m very settled about what to do, but I haven’t felt this dissy (dissociative) in a very long time. This is just so fucked. We spent 12 years trying to haul her out of the abyss, and she’s diving right back into it. But she doesn’t get to pull us in too, no.
(This is happening on top of various other stuff I’ve been trying to deal with too, but it dwarfs all of that.)
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You already know all this, so I’m preaching to the choir… but anybody else who wants to understand borderline personality disorder, I highly recommend the book I Hate You-- Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality by Jerold J Kreisman MD and Hal Straus.
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You know how in BoJack Horseman, how BoJack will goof off for a minute or so, and suddenly it’ll be hours later, and he realized he just wasted like five hours playing with fonts. That’s me, ever since I was a child. I’m sick of it. I blame ADHD. Medication wears off about an hour before it’s quitting time at work. I’ve talked with my shrink about it, and there’s no good options. I can’t sleep a healthy amount while also being focused enough to get to bed ontime.
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Why don’t you just raise the basement floor by several inches
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You mean by lifting the house with a giant winch? My solution was to leave the midwest. Where I am now people put their houses on stilts, so any water just passes by under you.
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I’m due for some work pretty soon that involves general anesthesia. I’m thinking about using permanent marker on my forehead and chest to say “do not provide services to me unless covered under plan $planname $plannumber”. This is an incredible scam being inflicted on us.
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Write a EULA over wherever the surgery will happen.
By cutting through here you, you agree to…
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That’s brilliant! So good. Nominated for like-amplification.
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I feel like I want to vomit. One of my friends just shared with me a video titled “The Donald Trump video that every Jew must watch!”; he was so insulted and disgusted by it that he needed to vent. Guess what? It’s contagious.
I just wish that I could tell the shande fir de goyim that produced that video my opinion of him, and to point out that Gobbels and other high ranking Nazis had their own pet Jews that they saved from the Final Solution. And that, from my perspective, he’s morally no better than my grand-uncle, who informed on his fellow Jews, up-to-and-including selling out his family to the Nazis.
And, finally, the negative stereotypes of us? Not any funnier when they’re coming from one of us trying to use those insulting stereotypes to get us to sell out from our ideals and principles.
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Was it a pro-Trump video aimed at Jews to get them to vote for Trump?
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