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Or call them sex reveal which is accurate.
Or don’t have them at all which is better
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As a woman of color, I had a whole list of syllables that wouldn’t even be considered for my kid’s name:
- No Tays,
- No Lays/Les
- No Dres
- No Eshas
- No Isha’s
Along with a few other no-no’s;
- No car names (Lexus, Portia, Mercedes)
- No alcoholic names (Alize, Hennessy, Chardonnay, Brandy),
- No commercial/designer brands (Chanel, Harley, Chase, Cartier)
Long story short, when some employer looks at my kid’s resume about 6 years or so from now, hopefully her CV won’t automatically end up at the bottom of ‘the circular file’ because her name ‘sounds too ethnic’ or too “urban.”
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I don’t envy you. The only thing I ever named was the family dog, and that was inspired by a movie. Everyone else was bickering over their ideal name while I was watching TV in another room. After the lead actor delivered a classic line, I ran to share what I’d heard with my family - and that was it.
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On one hand there is a boy in grade three or four who typically wears dresses at my kid’s school and no one cares. On the other hand I was at a birthday party where someone was tearfully apologizing because their parent bought a Lego dinosaur set for a girl, because apparently dinosaurs and non-Disney Lego are for boys now. It’s a hell of a mixed bag.
When people asked me if I knew the gender of my soon-to-be-born child I’d tell them we had a good guess but that we wouldn’t know for sure for 35 years.
Yeah, but if your last name is Hiscock you can avoid the first name “Holden.”
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Out with the old, in with the new?
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I just saw something about surprisingly rigid gender expectations among millennials/gen Ys, and thought, “Wait, these are the same generations cool with non-binary and gender fluidity? Oh, there’s probably a connection there.”
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This is why nicknames (or something chosen by the child) might be helpful. I say might, because even those can cause kids to be pigeonholed:
https://digest.bps.org.uk/2019/09/05/how-people-judge-your-personality-based-on-your-name/
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I knew this would happen:
No Hodor?
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@beschizza does that on purpose
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“Erm, you’re Jonathan Driscoll? Are you, um, sure?”
Not a bad thing actually. When you’r talking about lego, that is. 
My son used to love dresses, until the peer pressure kicked in at age 6, and it was no(t really a) problem. Some teasing by the other children, but his (female) teacher shut that down by saying “Why are you teasing him with his beautiful dress, I’m wearing a dress as well!” The four and five year olds were convinced by that reasoning. I was the same as a child, but I would never have gotten away with wearing a dress to school, not even at age 4. So there’s some progress.
On the other hands the toy stores over here are split down the middle, with one half blue and one half pink and no overlap whatsoever. Which was not the case when I was a kid.
This is what I mean, you don’t want to accidentally do that. It’ easier to make that mistake than you think. Especially if you have to take a few neighbor languages into account.
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I was about to write a comment like this, with “Gender Blast is my _____ cover band,” but I felt uneasy about filling in that blank.
For our first kid, we wanted a surprise so we asked the nurse doing the ultrasounds not to spoil it.
My wife was convinced it was a girl.
When my wife gave birth and I cut the cord, the nurse held the baby up to me rear facing. I was so floored that everything went okay that I looked up and said “It’s a boy!”.
My wife: “What??!?!”.
The nurse: “Ummm, you might want to look again…”
Me: “Oh. I guess a baby’s vagina kind of looks like testies from the back”.
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This content is so premium it should be behind a paywall.
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The cynical take on gender reveal parties is that cash strapped millennials are looking to have both a baby shower and this so they can cash in.
Or it’s corporations looking to further monetize childbirth… but yeah, probably the millennials…
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