Uh, marriage equality? “A few years back” was a LIFETIME ago when it comes to the fight for equality. Please note that in 2010, I stood in front of a Senate hearing and protested DADT (we were aiming our protests directly to John McCain), risking arrest.
DADT was repealed, for fuck’s sake! That’s a huge thing. HUGE. And it was not an easy fight.
I’ve been in the thick of it for YEARS. I’ve also payed close attention to the comment sections of Arizona news sites, and things are so very different than they were in, say, 2002. I know that’s just anecdotal, but as someone who grew up in Arizona, trust me when I say shit has changed.
It is now legal in Arizona to get married to a same-sex partner, and when that news hit, EVERYONE was so happy, including in my small little hometown in my small home county, where two well known and well loved lesbians got married - it was huge news, welcomed fully by even the most conservative in my home town and the county as a whole. (And trust me, my Arizona home town is very conservative. This is in the same county where Quartzsite is – cowboy country, through and through; this is the deep, deep deserts of western Arizona; google “Quartzsite Marshall Law” and you will not be disappointed.)
A gal I grew up with since birth was celebrating that marriage. Publicly. She even blessed their marriage, in her Christina way!!
In 2008, this same woman and I had several different arguments about gay marriage – she was vehemently opposed due to religious reasons. She and I argued about this more than once, but she was like a sister, so I kept her in my life. I’m not sure when it happened, but I do know that merely SIX years later and she’s done a complete turn and is now in full support of gay marriage.
As a queer woman who was never sure if the people I grew up would fully accept me, I cried my eyes out the night that marriage equality became legal in Arizona. Because of my friend, who is now in full support of marriage equality when so recently she wasn’t, and for so many others like her. There was a HUGE celebration in my home town – something that never would have happened in 2008.
Yes, there is plenty still to be done, particularly when it comes to trans* rights, but homophobia at least in mass numbers is a thing of the past in the U.S.
This asshole is part of a very small minority.
OVER HALF of the population of the US now believes that marriage equality should be legal. Over half. That’s … a fucking majority.
Even evangelicals are getting out of the fight, because their numbers are dwindling.
Look at this! Shit like this WOULD NOT have happened in 2008! Now it’s happening all over. People are leaving their churches because their churches espouse homophobic beliefs. It’s one of the biggest reasons churches are losing members, in fact. That and people just aren’t as religious as they used to be.
ETA: AND a couple people in my home town helped produce a gay indie movie that’s doing pretty well on the indie scene. This is a town I ran away from when I was 19 because it was so oppressive. And now people are helping to produce gay indie flicks and are celebrating a lesbian wedding as if it’s like, totally a thing that’s normal. WTF? It’s so very different, it is almost mind-boggling.
I have a first date this weekend with a lady who seems promising. The fact that I could fall in love with a lady and get married in my home town and the people I grew up around would support it?! I mean, my immediate family has always been pretty open minded and even progressive, but my tiny little home town as a whole? Not so much.
But I could get married to a woman in my tiny Ariona home town. That’s a thing I could totally do now. And people would largely celebrate! It would probably not even be a big deal. People probably wouldn’t even be surprised, for the most part. Basically, everyone that matters would be there at the wedding.
Are you queer? That might be why you don’t see it as clearly as I do. I COULD VERY WELL GET MARRIED TO A WOMAN IN MY SMALL ARIZONA HOME TOWN AND IT WOULD NOT BE A HUGE DEAL. That is amazing and mind blowing to me.
Disclaimer: I don’t want to get married. But I could. To another woman. In my tiny home town. Wtf. Still amazes me.