Ehhhh - well, yes you’re right, people do that. But not every time someone does that means there is ZERO concern.
Though I’d caution anyone getting into too much of an uproar, as there are many, many examples of men and women running off to be with someone else leaving the kids behind. Kids will survive, but divorce does have some impact on many of them. (Saying this as a divorcee.)
Personally this sorta leaves a bad taste in my mouth souly because of the kids. I guess it depends how it shakes out, but if either the mother or the father is “out”, as in not living there, then IMHO that is rather unfair to the kids (it would be different if the parents couldn’t make it work). If all three are living there, then that should be fine. Stability is really the most important thing. But really, it isn’t any of my business.
If all three where kidless I couldn’t care less what they do or what arrangement they make.
But this is true of any number of situations, from having a single parent, to having same sex parents, or having parents that are an interracial couple. As long as we continue to have a culture that privileges some people over others, this will continue to be true. bullying is a systemic problem that has more to do with the bullies and a culture which doesn’t value all of us equally.
Having a strong family unit is one of the most effective counters to school bullying of any variety. The way to get rid of bullying is to change our culture and this family being open about their arrangement is in fact, one way to do this. Normalize all family arrangements and it becomes less strange and exotic, and more accepted.
They’re fading, yeah, but I’ve seen gay-marriage-with-kids pieces fairly recently, and at least one interracial-gay-marriage-with-kids piece in the last year.
Nice meltdown, dude, take a breath. My bit was obviously a simple jest about a goofy twist within an already novel situation. You* might want to have a nice cup of tea or something before you start hammering away at the next chapter, alright?
No, LearnedCoward. Please show me – word for word – where I make anything like a suggestion that the kids “simply straighten up and fly right, and hide their arrangement like it’s something to be ashamed of”. No. YOU " – not “we” – cleared that up", but in a way that actually muddied it.
to @beschizza There is a distinct difference between the standard wedding announcement that happens and this here. That said…I not once said I have a problem with their relationship status or arrangement; nor anyone else’s. But thank you for implying this.
Ah, the “I’m just joking… unless we’re being serious”.
I’m glad you thought you were funny.
Not the kids straighten up and fly right, but the parents. And you actually explained why, in the post I quoted. Assuming I really need to quote it again, it’s this tired old saw:
So basically, because intolerant family members, strangers, work colleagues, etc will be mean, people should hide their differences. I’ve heard this so many times before about so many different things. And it’s never “I don’t approve of XYZ”, because of course the speaker is a liberal (in the Phil Ochs sense), but it’s some theoretical rando acting as a proxy. Both dishonest and cowardly.
It’s okay if you don’t approve of whatever, or you feel weirded out. You’re in your right to feel weirded out from time to time. Just don’t pretend that you aren’t and you’re just Thinking Of The Children ™.
I went to grade school with a girl whose last name was “Hoare”. One day we had a young substitute teacher who was very obviously struggling with the pronunciation during attendance. “Miss Ho-are-ey?”, the sub said cautiously. To which someone else helpfully piped up, “it’s HOARE!” The class was silent for a second … and then we all laughed, everyone (including Miss Hoare) except for the sub.
