I’ve NEVER met someone or known someone or seen someone or even had a female friend disclose to me that something like this happened.
Is this masturbation thing a trend I’m unaware of? I’ve had some incredibly frank conversations with friends, male, female, straight, gay, etc, etc. Never heard someone just start masturbating.
Until now. Suddenly, all these dudes are alleged to have done it.
I’m going to get out in front of any rumors and just go ahead and confess, right here. I’ve never ever masturbated in front of anyone. I know this will likely make me a pariah in certain circles, based on what’s being revealed, but… why, why the hell would you do that?
The right thing to do is to not sexually harass/assault ohjer people in the first place.
Once it’s done, it’s done. Like any other bad choice, people don’t get to control their victim’s subsequent actions or the criticism that follows when what’s been done comes out. That’s life.
The best way to handle it is by owning up to it and and the shame that comes with it and making a short sincere apology without offering excuses or justifying the behavior.
None of the high profile abusers have managed this to date.
I have to assume it’s a power-play kink that’s been going on since forever and we clueless dudes just weren’t aware of how widespread the practice was until recently. It’s not like it’s the kind of thing most guys would brag about to other guys even during the kind of bro-banter Trump calls “locker room talk.”
“You should have seen her; disgusted and terrified as she fled the room while I continued to jerk it in her general direction…”